Is Low Self Confidence or Low Self Esteem A Problem?





Do you suffer with low self confidence, low self esteem, or other self development problems?

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Self defeat, self worth 
I am turning 29 in a week and have not accomplished anything in life. I worked hard at my dead end jobs since I was 16 and i remember getting paid 5 something …

How to help people like you helped me today and after reading the posts expressing my love for your site  
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not being able to express yourself 
If a family member dislikes you they will never see your side of things whether you are right or wrong. If you were a fantastic artist they would always …

Low confidence/social anxiety 
I'm a 19 year old male I'm tall some girls say I'm handsome others don't and I feel to scared to talk to girls sometimes I don't know why I really want …

Lonely 
For months I've kept myself inside the walls of our house. I had 4 months of summer break before college starts. Sure, I went out from time to time but …

Low Self-Esteem and Lack of Communication Skills 
I'm 27 yrs old, single, and have never been in a committed relationship. I feel I have had low self-esteem all my life. Growing up I've always heard that …

Lost 
I'm a single mom to a teenage girl. Lost both my parents early in life mom at 10, dad at 18 and became lost in my teens as a result of a lack of guidance …

My older brother hates me 
I am fifteen years old and my brother is seventeen. In our younger years we got along really well. I always admired him and wanted to be doing whatever …

I have lost myself, my life, and most importantly my family 
I'm 19 years old I'll be 20 in 6 months, and I still currently live with my parents, 8 year old brother and 14 year old sister. The story of my downhill …

I'm pretty screwed up 
I'm pretty screwed up. That summarizes it. But that statement is accurate. I don't really know why, or at least I'm not sure. But I do know one …

Insecurity, Low self esteem and confidence, self conscious and relationship problem 
I feel insecure physically and just with my life in general. I didn't grow the way I wanted to be. I am self conscious and I think that makes me have low …

Don't have any motivation 
Two years ago my twin died of leukemia. I'm 17 now and I don't have any motivation in my life I go to church twice a week or as often as I can I try to …

I dont have anything in my life. 
I live on the internet. I don't have friends or a pet and I have nothing to make me feel better and sometimes I just start crying. I'm drifting away from …

My brother hates me 
Im 13 and he is 15. Ever since I was young he picked on me and while im stressing over how he hates me. My family is going through a divorce. But it all …

no trust after mult emotional affairs 
My husband has had several emotional affairs we have been to counseling. My husband apologized for the emotional affairs I knew about but others kept popping …

Relationship problem 
I have been in this relationship for a long time. now when I think about it, I feel I should have quit a long time ago. My boyfriend has been my first …

My Inlaws 
Hi, I am married and live in UK, due to some problems and petty issues in the early years of my marriage, my in-laws do not have very good relationship …

Self Confidence... Its taking over me...  
Hi. Im a young teenager and Im having the worst confidence issues ever... I dont know whats really making me act the way I do now. Its getting really …

Husband of 1 yr became disabled 6 months ago. Then my daughter aged 28, with 4 of my grandkids hate me for no reason. The list goes on. 
I had to stop working just before Christmas because my husband had a leg amputation. I'm now his 24/7 caregiver. He's had 4 amputations on one leg since …

friendship  
hello... Iam cherin and I am sad or maybe I am disappointed with people who I thought were important in my life. Here's the thing, I really don't care …

self controll 
hello... I want to share my problem regarding my self confidence. Since my childhood im facing lack of confidence relating to a lot of things in my life. …

Feel stupid, incompetent and worthless at work 
I'm a new lateral entry teacher. I've been a nurse for many years and now I'm teaching in a local high school. My self esteem is very low right now and …

suffuring is too much for me 
I am a lady of 36years of age, living in Africa.Life has been so bad for me for the past 32years.when i was 3and half years i had water burn that almost …

Low self-confidence, no purpose 
I am 40. That is hard. I don't have a 4 year degree. I have a husband and 2 kids. I have always wanted to be a homemaker but we needed two incomes so …

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Very Depressed 
I am 44 yrs. old and have been depressed most of my life. I have no confidence, low self-esteem, no energy, etc. I have gone to Psychiatrist, Psychologist, …

Lack of trust in you and me and everyone we know causing self esteem issues 
I can't trust myself. I can't even trust myself when it comes to deciding if I like bananas or if I don't. So I keep buying bunches of bananas that I never …

Long term mental health illness from stress and media exposure 
I have found it hard to stay positive by being overwhelmed by my asperger's condition. When I have gone out in the past I have become anxious by people …

Destined for a path of unkown  
My names going to remain anonymous but I will say as of 2013 I am 17. I am happy I made it to 17 knowing the path I put myself in. I appreciate life so …

i need a purpose and life of my own!!!!!!!!!!!! 
Im an army wife and i just turned 40 yr ! i have no living family and i have no career. i feel very dependant on my husband and his job. I'm also having …

Many years of low self esteem and I feel like I give of myself without regard to my own needs 
I have lived for 45 years with low self esteem. I don't like to blame others as i have forgiven my parents for years of neglect, abuse and my father being …

he keeps breaking my heart 
I met this guy last year. He was all I'd dreamt of, trating me like I was the only gal in the world. Met his mother and she hated me for no reason, but …

I get upset when my boyfriend goes out without me 
I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. We are very happy and I see him as my future husband. Since he started working he goes out every weekend. …

Not coping 
I lost my husband and my sister 3 years ago within 17 days of each other, in the last 4 years I lost my father, my husband, my sister, my sister in law, …

I hate My life 
I am 20 years girl, studying in Bangladesh so far from my own country. When I was with my mom and brother I was okay by myself even though I was shy with …

alone 
I'm a 54 year old lesbian. I've worked hard my entire life. I had a good life and many friends until one nite I was in a horrible motorcycle wreck an suffered …

Love 
There is a girl (non Muslim) we love each other, we have been together for 3 years now. I always knew it would be difficult for us to get married, but …

nephew bullies his parents and phyically abuses mother and verbally abuses both parents and still living at home at 23 yrs old 
Nephew 23yrs lives at home and continues to bully his parents for years. Also he gets physical as well as abusive with his mother which is my sister and …

getting promotion 
I left university with a first class degree. I work for a local web company. for about two years. iI receive good comments on my work. My attitude …

I don't really have any friends 
Two years ago, I left my boyfriend of four years. I thought I was going to better off, but in the end... I am alone. He took all of my friends and even …

older brother is hurtful 
My brother is 10 years older than me. We have never really been close but I think we have both tried. He has a very dry, sarcastic sense of humor and …

I hate hating my life 
I really hate my life. I have a lot to be thankful for but I just hate having no one to share my life with. I have friends... they are just surface friends …

Fear to stay alone at home once loved one passed away 
I have lost my aunt, uncle 7 years ago in a traffic accident since that day I'm having fear to stay alone at home. Recently their only son also passed …

family problems  
my family has abandoned my mother after she raised eight children for sixty years she lost my father 2 years ago and their idea was to leave her alone …

i think im ugly and fat 
well its been going on for a year maybe I just dont feel good about myself because I weigh a 146 pounds and the girls at my school look so skinny and have …

I have developed fear of driving 
Since an I had a bad panic attack driving in FWY, now it has grown in my mind like crazy. How do stop this and heal. Thanks P

BALRAM 
I am 26 years old. I have been working in an IT company with salary of 10000 per month. I am afraid of my future. Some times feeling like I am not suitable …

children disability 
My son is almost 4 years and he can't speak May be has psychological problem. He can't understand anything. The doctor said he has genetic problem …

Break Up Issue 
Hi, My name is Afnas.Well my issue is a about a broken relationship which I don't want to continue and I have told her about that but she is still back …

I'm not who I once was 
I was molested about two years ago, I think that I always had a little bit of depression as a young girl but in high school it really hit off after that …

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I don't know how to talk to the people - 
I am just a 16 years old boy suffering from being unable to talk clearly and nicely to the people around me. I really feel sad and abashed, because …

Can't get a job as an Accountant  
I can't seems to be able to find a job as an accountant. I have passed all my Accountancy exam in 2009 but I don't have any practical experience as an …

I lack confidence when it comes to women. 
I have a very hard time approaching a girl I like in public. Actually I've never even done it before, the two girls I dated I sort of met online (the first …

expired visa expired life  
I got to this country then I was 20 happy years old girl from Russia, overstayed on my visa but didn't care that much because it was different. I …

I'm 29 years old Christian and I hate living with my mother. I hate my life 
Most of my life has been a series of hardships and heartbreaks. I try to be a decent person, I work really hard in school and work. I don't get any reward. …

My confidence has diminished since i have been with my boyfriend 
I'm 24 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He is my first everything, he is my first boyfriend and about 1 year and a half ago I lost …

Relationship alienation 
I am a very attractive independent lady. My boyfriend brings me to his work parties and around his friends /family and then ignores me. He says it's because …

i use to know me , but now i don't 
I miss who I used to be. I was a smart woman who took good care of herself I don't know what happened. ok, here is where my story begins. before I …

I am attracted to same sex 
I myself am a girl and I am attracted to a girl who is beautiful .. I have liked her since the first day I saw her.. She is going to get married in a …

i'm terrible shy towards women. i'm 52 and never a girlfriend or relationship . i'm still a virgin . 
My is Robert I'm 52 and single and still a virgin. I've never had a girlfriend or relationship in my life. I find it hard approaching women always have …

i switched schools .  
Okay so in 6th grade, I started middle school. and I went to this school & I loved it there i made so many new friends & plus my friends I knew from elementary …

low self confidence and always nervous 
After getting married last year I seem to be having a problem with expressing my feelings to my in-laws. I am always nervous especially when it comes to …

low self esteem 
I'm average weight(5'4 1/2" and 120-130lb), light medium skin tone with light blonde hair and ocean colored eyes. I know I'm not fat but I always feel …

No Friends.. 
I'm going to be twenty at the end of February, and it's safe to say that I don't have a single friend outside of my family and boyfriend. I'm okay with …

Why carry on? 
Hi i am turning 12 next month and so far my life as an 11 year old has probably been my worst year. It is scaring me how time is going so fast and I just …

Bored housewife no discipline or routine and scared/social anxiety 
Hi, I am 36/f from the u.k. a bored housewife with 2 kids. Hate having routine but put on one when kids are home from school. I have no friends because …

I dont trust my body 
I promised myself I would never slip up again. I trained so hard and lost 20 lbs and got strong and lean. I started running which I thought I would never …

Loneliness..  
Hello, I'm 15 years old (16 in November), and I've got really low self esteem and confidence. I am always shy and so I can't make any friends because I …

Extremely shy 12 year old daughter 
She was born shy. I thought as she got older she would grow out of it or comfortably shy but now I am more worried. I have realized she avoids greeting …

I'm really stupid... 
I feel really stupid. I always tell myself that I'm going to follow through with my work and studies, but I end up just pushing them aside and procrastinating. …

I love my boyfriend, but he has hurt me so much and i have lost all my confidence 
I used to be a confident girl and didn't really ever get down about myself often, sometimes of course, but that is a normal thing to happen. Then I met …

I hate my life 
I'm 16 this year. I seriously hate my life to the max! My school sucks to the core! My teachers and friends are useless to me. I don't like anything here.. …

Boy friends lack of self confidence  
Me and my boyfriend say we love each other, and I believe that to be true on both sides. Our problem is since his childhood he has had self esteem issues …

Self confidence issue 
I am 23 years old. in high school I was outgoing I was kind I had more friends than I knew what to do with and I had at least 1 girl crushing on me at …

my older sister hates me 
My sister and i are 11yrs apart never had sisterly closeness, not even very much contact as adults. I lead a very dark, felony filled (30yrs old and up)I …

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Low low low confidence/esteem 
I have really low self esteem. I have thought of ending it all a couple times. And even cut my wrist once just to see how it felt. I had dreams of jumping …

mother does not like proposals of my choice 
I (28/m) work and live in middle east for past 4 years. my parents have been looking for suitable marriage proposal for me. Even though its arranged marriage …

Hard times with grief 
I've recently suffered a loss that has led to me confronting a lot of other issues. During childhood I had problems with dealing with my two bickering …

Sleeping 2 Days Straight, Negative, Have Nothing to Get Up For... 
I have been diagnosed with depression. I find myself sleeping 2 days straight (I wake up but figure there is nothing to get up for). I have 2 dogs, …

trouble boyfriend 
My boyfriend I have been going out for a while now bout 1 year and 7 months. Normally he's okay like not to much of a handful or anything but lately he's …

is he controlling or helping? 
Hello I'm 22 year old female with 3 kids each one has different fathers but me and my last child father have been together for 3 years he. Tells me that …

body shape and weight :( 
Hi, well I was never a large child or someone too skinny, I was average. When I went through puberty things changed. My body shape changed and I gained …

My boyfriend went on Vacation without me during Christmas 
My boyfriend is a doctor. We hardly see each other because he is always on call and when he isn't (well, he always is) he works quite a bit. I usually …

Forget a lot and I'm tired? 
I'm a senior in high school, and I didn't do anything other than work until this year. Now I'm a bit worried about college because I didn't have the experiences …

jealousy 
My name is Jessica, I'm not an ugly girl, but I'm not like whoa super beautiful. I get compliments from people often. But I still can't stop feeling …

ex boyfriend troubles 
No one ever likes me... one person did or at least he said he did. We were together for awhile and he said he loved so much and would never stop loving …

16 female 
I hate myself I hate everything about me. My life has been nothing but pain and hurt and a little to no happy times. My friends and school mean everything …

0% confidence and self esteem 
It's been a long time since I have had any self esteem or self confidence. I remember 6th grade, one of the worst years of my life. I was always put down, …

cross roads... 
To start off... I'm twenty six years old. A single mother of a beautiful four year old daughter. Was married... divorced my husband because he severely …

My friends mum 
I go round my friends house every Thursday and all the time she sits there quietly crying at night calling her self, Listening to what other people say …

Lost confidence and it's ruining my relationship 
I'm 23 years old. I met my fiancé when I was 21 and he has full custody of his son. I was a very eager and confident woman who had a lot of drive and was …

Best friend envy 
I just feel like my best friend has got it all, the looks the guys the clothes everything. It makes me look down on my self because I constantly compare …

I feel UGLY 
Ok well I am on Facebook and when I upload photos everyone comments on them like omg that's a lovely picture of a pigs butt or wow image of ugly. This …

need more self confidence in my relationship 
I am typically a very confident woman but now, I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months and he says that I need to be more confident in myself.

Lost and confused/ no desire to do anything anymore 
I don't know how far I am supposed to go back with my problem but I will go back as far as when I think my serious issues started occurring. I had a wonderful …

self hate 
I'm 22 yeas old I hate my nose and my body shape. All my life I have hated how I look. I'm a black female and dark skinned complexion. I want to be …

i always hesitate to do things. 
Please don't judge me. I always try things, its just that every time I try I always fail, which makes me not try things any more. It's so hard to experience …

self blame and no confidence 
A few months ago I was a confident care-free person I started dating this amazing guy. Since then I have slowly lost all my self confidence and now feel …

I need ideas of how to gain money (I'm 12) 
Hi, my name is Kelly, and i have never seen the ocean, better yet, I never went to any other country or province. My mom keeps telling me that my childhood …

Retired stay at home Mom with low self esteem 
I'm 48 years old. I have 3 grown children, and am recently remarried. Other than volunteer work at my children's school, I have never worked out of the …

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Unhappy in life 
Hi I am a 29 yr old mom with a toddler. I have very low self confidence. I always tend to read a lot of self help books and articles in order to improve …

Great :( 
Hi, I am 20 years old. Ive been working and paying rent, helping my family out since I was 15. I live at home with my mom, dad, brother, and his girlfriend. …

Hate looking at my self 
Ever since I've started middle school I can barely stand to see what look like there's never a day when I don't feel good enough. Or there's times were …

low confidence 
Throughout my entire life I have been very confident and aware of my ambitions and goals but within the last 4 months I have lost it all. No longer do …

l have no confidence its holding me back 
I am a singer in a band and we have just split up. I used to sing on my own before the band but with great results, that's why I can not understand why …

i dont have confidence with girls 
I have had a few girlfriends but the relationships only lasted a few weeks. I'm only 16 and a sophomore in a small high school but it feels like I should …

i hate life 
My parents don't love me. I like playing the guitar, but my dad often taunts at me when I play as I am just a beginner. I even hate college, I …

Deep and never ending feeling of depression 
I don't regret any of the decisions I have taken in my past and I have always been a good person. helping, loving and have never been pretentious with …

irrationalnegative thoughts 
For the past few months I've been having fear thoughts i.e something bad is going to happen to me, or I'm going mad due to having these thoughts. I have …

my life.. 
Well ever since I was little my father has been in and out of jail. When he was home he was on drugs and he always wanted a son and I'm the middle child …

My Miserable life 
My friends and girlfriend left me; maybe I have some kind of problem so they left me. Now I have no friend or girlfriend, no money. I am 28 now but still …

i dont really know what my problem is 
I'm 21 and I feel like I'm stuck in life... I grew up fast & I didn't get to experience being a teenager and when I was finally able to break away and …

Wife's Past 
My wife had some previous relationships. One in which she had gotten pregnant from. I had met her when her baby was a year old. Anyway, I did not have …

I am stuck in a loop. My motivation is gone. 
I am 29 years old male, living on my own. My motivation is gone. I dropped out of high school after flunking grade 11. I was doing a lot of drugs at …

I'm fed up with being me 
I'm 16 year old girl, don't really like much about myself apart from my talent of acting. I do have friends, some of whom i've been close with for so long, …

I never have the courage to ask people! 
Ok so I have this low self confidence thing with people and my dad and stuff. For example I need something, the silliest thing ever I don't have the …

im fat and feel gross & think nobody wants me  
I had a child over 2 years ago I weighed 145 after pregnancy I was 185 now I'm 165 I tried everything and nothing works my height is 5'5. I have very slow …

Our relationship is on the rocks!!!!! 
Ive been with my boyfriend now for 16yrs, "yes" we have had our fall outs but sorted them but now this is serious. My dad passed away a few weeks …

I feel like such a failure 
It's hard to know where to start.. I recently completed a course to qualify as a Primary Teacher. I found the course very stressful and difficult as I …

Why am I so paranoid? 
My and my boyfriend have been together 11 years. He was 14 I was 15 when we got together. We have both cheated very early in the relationship. I slept …

looks 
Hello I'm 14 and I have problems with looking good, when I am brown and have freshly cut hair I attract A LOT of girls but when my hair has grown slightly …

I hate being away from my boyfriend.  
I cant stand to be apart from my boyfriend. I want to be with him 24/7 and love spending time with him. I hate it when he has to go home at night and especially …

I don't know what to do with my life 
Up until recently I loved going to school and doing well. I always got really good marks in tests and I wanted to become a vet. But recently I've …

have you ever felt lost , helpless and with no self confidance? 
I'm a junior in high school during summer i moved from a small town to an even smaller town that is real close to my old town Before the move i was so …

Low self esteem 
Hi. I am 17. and i am a boy.and i have really low-esteem.and zilch confidence. NONE.AT.ALL. its mostly because my parents have been nagging me about everything …

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Social Anxiety 
Hi there, I'm a 20 year old girl in University and I feel like my life is in shambles lately. I've always been quite shy even as a child, but lately I've …

Self-pity and depression have consumed me 
I don't know if i have the right to feel this way but i have been like this for almost a year now. I am a 23 years old, a registered Nurse. I feel so depressed, …

lack of confidence 
I am an Engineering Graduate. I have a job offer from an MNCs. My age is 21 and whatever it is, it seems to be perfect for most of you. I am a girl and …

Corporate world 
So, I am the positive light in our corporate world..... So not like anyone else.... have a personality and I care..... Problem? Feel stuck in an environment …

Life as a husband, father and foreigner 
Ive been living in Japan for almost 4years now. My wife is from here and my 2 children were both born here, my eldest is nearly 3years old and my little …

self esteem, confidence about my body and my personality. 
Hi my names Vanessa, I'm 19 years old. Since I was 16 I've had low self-esteem and I feel that I hate my body. I'm very petite and 152 cms and weigh …

I feel lost in life............ 
I'm only 13 now. When I was 11 everyone made fun of me. I tried to ignore everything that made me mad and live my life better. but I can't. Nobody …

Feel hopeless and demotivated 
I have been out of work for almost a year.. I am overwhelmed with debt, nothing is going right for me.. I feel so miserable and demotivated to apply for …

Unhappy & Scared of Life 
I am a high school senior about to graduate in 2012. I am really quiet in school and I have a twin sister but she is the opposite of me. Everyone always …

Fear of doing something 
I love playing tennis. I want to go a to a great place in the field of tennis. But some fear is stopping me from it. Some fear that I would fail no …

I feel like I'm a failure and I'm not smart enough. 
I have no reason to feel this way. I'm healthy, I have a wonderful daughter and partner. I just get this overwhelming feeling that I won't accomplish …

Attitude 
I am a dreamer but never put anything into action. I am a pretty bad procrastinator and tend to have a 'I can't be bothered' attitude to a lot of things. …

I don't know why I feel so down on myself 
I am 24 a mother and wife. I have three kids and here lately because I don't drive I am mostly at home with the kids. I take care of them and the husband …

Scared of people 
Ever since I was young my mum used to tell me not to talk unless spoke to, if I spoke I'd get a horrible punishment. As I grew older I learned not to talk …

I feel helpless 
I am currently studying. Results have recently returned and I did horribly. Everyone around me does so well and no one understand how I'm feeling. Everyone …

I hate it when my boyfriend goes out, gets drunk, and has fun with his friends. 
I really, really, REALLY hate it when he does this. It's not even the fact that he's having fun without me. It's just that, frankly, when he gets drunk.... …

Low Self Confidence 
hi.....I'm a normal average high school student......... I don't have anything in special in me......... Like 2 years ago.... I was like this famous kid …

Chantel 
Well first off my name is Chantel. I'm 16 years old. I'm not the skinniest but I'm not the fattest. I have dated boys before but now I wonder why I cant …

I can't get over my ex. 
"Perhaps nothing is ever quite as painful as getting over your first love. It's not just any old break-up; this is the boy/girl who taught you what it …

i hate my life 
I try hard to be the best I can. I study all night long only to get a scholarship and be able to afford to dorm at stony brook. I study all night long, …

confidence, self worth, and self defeating thoughts. 
I'm 28 years old and have a real hard time with having any self worth despite pushing through life and accomplishing things like becoming a paramedic and …

Not a good enough daughter.. 
I feel ashamed to be in public, I am constantly trying to cover myself with sweaters, I never wear just a t-shirt unless of in front of my boyfriend because …

What do I do now? 
I'm 28 years old. I found out end of last year that I will not be able to have children on my own or possibly not at all, due to my severe endometriosis. …

(my sisters hate me) After our brother passed away 
I am 55 years old. I have always had a close relationship with both of my sisters. We had one brother. My other sister resented our brother because …

Anxiety & Depression 
Hi I'm 20 and I've suffered with anxiety and depression for many years now, I think I have anyway, I have never been to the doctors or told anybody how …

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Can't get over my ex-husband leaving for another woman?! 
I was 6 months pregnant when my ex-husband left me for another woman. It has been the most painful year and half of my life. I can’t get over the hurt …

I'm never happy. 
I know that compared to a large part of the world, I have a good life. I would rather downgrade some things and be happy than live miserably though. …

Very low self esteem that keeps me from doing things I want. 
I feel uglier than anyone my age. I feel unimportant and I always seem to find a justification of why I deserve not to feel beautiful or important. I have …

low self confidence and anxiety 
This problem was with me from school days, but it was not that bad, I once gave public speech, interacted with friends well. But now this problem seems …

Rock Bottom, Help? 
I guess I'm going to vent a lot, so I apologise for the long post. Lately I have been suffering from bad depression and social anxiety it's become …

i have trauma issues 
I THINK I HAVE PARANOIA???? I am currently 15 years old and when I was twelve I had an accident with a bus that caused me to have an amputation (half …

my sister dosnt like mme 
She is constantly picking on me and can't live without it, although about 6 months ago before my parents divorce there was almost no problem. She is 13 …

help me :(  
I feel really low in Self Confidence I live in a shared housing and there like 20 people who are always there and I hate to leave my flat because I feel …

How do you find your purpose? 
I am 28 year old female. For 7 years I have been going around in circles trying to work out what my true purpose is? Doing work that really comes from …

My 7 years old 
I have a 7 years old daughter, she is a good kid, good sister(5 years old girl), good daughter, very good friend and good student, tries to do her best …

Possesive and controlling mother in law 
I have a big problem for my mother in law. Her possessiveness and controlling, dominating attitude hurt me very much. She believes that I am a barrier …

I literally cant talk to people anymore. 
My low confidence is becoming so impossible to even go to shops and buy things, I actually have to get my friends to top up my phone and buy food for me …

insecure with my relationship?? 
Hi, I'm feeling rather insecure with my fiance. We have been seeing each other for over a year and about 2 months ago he asked me to marry him. Of course …

I feel like everybody hates me  
I feel like everybody hates me my parents always tell me to go away and I'm the only one out of my 3 sisters who gets shouted at all the time.

Low Self esteem. HELP HELP HELP. 
Warning this is really long but I really need some advice. PLEASE. Hi, well today after school I was once again depressed. Throughout my few sixteen years …

Low Self esteem 
I am a 28 year old stay at home mom of a 21 month old kid. I have had very low self esteem since my childhood days and has not improved yet. This problem …

I'm suffering from low confidence 
I'm suffering from low confidence in a numerous amount of ways. My confidence level is affecting how I run in Cross Country/track, my schoolwork, and …

not got one 
Listen life is short and fast don't take it as though it means nothing You're lucky you were born please make the most of it xxxx

im 27 old male , and i m lost and have leak of self esteem 
I was lost choosing what I want in the university and I wasn't committed to anything of the majors, so i decided to drop out. Even in my working life I …

No one in my corner 
I'm 41 yrs old and for the past year I've been battling cancer. It's really bad, the doctors told me they can only treat my symptoms they cant cure me.. …

What is wrong with me? 
I am at the end of a very long drawn out divorce that I initiated. I share 2 young children with him. I was unfaithful in my marriage numerous times. I …

I'm not good enough 
Well anyway I'm 12 almost 13 and I'm actually crying as I write this because I know everything I'm going to tell is true and what I really think and feel …

self confidence and self esteem 
Well, I am just a 13 year old girl who hasn't really ever felt good about herself. I don't resort to cutting or anything... I just don't understand …

Low self esteem affecting me 
'I think' I have low self esteem. Mine is quite a long story. Lately I have been thinking about it and I think I now know where it all started. When I …

I don't know 
I am 21, divorced single mom, and a full time student. I'm not sure what my problem is but I really need answers. I'm known to be bright but I can't seem …

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Girls make me feel really uncomfrotable and I dont like it when they check me out 
So I basically have no self esteem self worth or confidence. I've tried lifting weights but nothing works. I'm seeing a counsellor and on medication but …

I might be suffering from low self esteem 
Well, I was raped a year ago. The thing is that now, after I believed I had a good self esteem, a guy is flirting with me and I don't think I'm good enough... …

I am known to be a very intelligent student with straight A's, but intend to not use my common sense at times. I am 17 years old and I want to discontinue this. 
Wow, I do not exactly remember a lot of times where I did not use my common sense, but there is something I do remember and it has been haunting me and …

Overworked about what to say 
Hi, My name's John and I'm a 16 year old guy. Recently (in the past year or so), I've been kind of upset because I've had trouble having conversations. …

my parents dont let me do anything!!!!!!! 
I'm 11 years old its only my stupid dad he doesn't buy me anything not even a slurpie is the grumpiest on my birthday, calls me a brat he doesn't even …

ugly as hell 
There's no way to cope other than extreme facial reconstruction and even still I'd still be ugly. I actually had jaw surgery thinking it would solve …

I am a lesbian and i have a very low self confidence 
I am a lesbian and I have a very low self confidence. I feel like other people that I don't know don't like me for it. And I experienced being teased at …

Afraid of positive thinking 
I am afraid that if I change to positive thinking that I will somehow lose what I am or what makes me, ME. I am afraid that I will compromise with people …

Everything 
Okay well where to start. Well I've got so much to say so I'll just start here I guess. Oh by the way my name is Jennifer and I'm 15. …

Mia  
Hi I'm Mia and 16 years old. I have really low self confidence and low self esteem. I hate talking to new people for example I'm buying clothes and I have …

Low self esteem and no confidence 
I am a 21 year old male college student. Over the past years I have been constantly comparing myself to others well at least the guys in my life friends …

confused about my husband 
My name is Ashley and I'm 22yrs old. Me and my husband have been married for almost a year now. When we first got married life was great. We had great …

I get emotional and I dont think about my actions I just do them 
When meeting people I make a good impression, they like me and then as quickly I will do things like being rude interrupting the conversation to bring …

I am so alone at 36 years 
Thanks so much for your forum. I am 36 years old female. I am miserable because I am alone - I have so far gone through 4 break ups and it is taking a …

i hate my life  
My problem is that I can't live my life as I want. I am a great person I have done many great things to many people in my life but when it comes to the …

No One Loves Me 
My name is Meghan. I am 12 years old and I hate my life. At school I get teased and picked on and everyone tells me I wish I was dead and that they hate …

I feel lost. 
I am a 27 year old wife and mother of two, and a full time college student. I have come to the point were everything is just getting to be too much, I …

Low Self Esteem 
Over the last few months, I've been constantly doubting myself and always feel like I am either in the way or being irritating to the people around me. …

My G'f returned all my gifts after breakup, what should I do now? 
I had an extra marital affair with a girl for more than 3 years and the girl is single still. She was engaged with someone else but when her boyfriend …

confidence problem from childhood 
I suffer a confidence problem. I am afraid from my friend from my parents and others who are living ahead of me. I cant work with confidence and many …

Poo Bear 
Well, I've always been someone most people seem to think is pretty sorted, which makes me laugh now. I've been up and down ever since 14 years old (I am …

Hopeless In L.A. 
I'm married in my early 40's and have two beautiful kids... I love them to death... my wife is another thing but that's not really why I feel so hopeless …

16 and no esteem 
I'm 16 years old, I have a twin that I confide in for most of my problems but this time I feel I need more help... I feel like no matter what I do I can't …

low self esteem and a hate for myself 
HI IM 30.IVE BEEN MARRIED ALMOST 12 YRS. I HAVE 3 BOYS AND ONE ON THE WAY. IM 6MONTHS PREGNANT. IVE BEEN BATTLING WITH CONFIDENCE AND SELF ESTEEM FOR YEARS. …

Im sick of my life, I hate it 
Iv been depressed for the past year or more. I'm not even sure why I'm writing this, I guess it's to try get somethings off my chest. I'll try keep it …

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Decadence 
Hi, in order to understand why I have so much hate for myself I will have to take you through my entire life's story, so make yourself comfortable. Here …

I have so many problems in my life, and I feel unhappy. I'm too young to be this depressed. 
My name is Jessica. I'm fourteen years old, and I'm constantly sad. My mom is sick with smoldering myeloma, which will eventually turn into bone cancer. …

Lazy, Ashamed, Low Self Esteem and the feeling of Uselessness. 
Hello, My name is Daniel, and I'm 19 yrs old. As you can see my problems, I have many of them. This is going to be long I apologize. I just finished …

My out look on life. 
Hello. I am Taeyler. I am almost 16. I feel that I am never happy with my life or myself, & a lot of teenagers feel this way. My dad was pretty much never …

I am Hopeless 
I am in a job I hate, make barely enough money to survive and am fat. I need a change. I want to run away but I have a lot of responsibilities here. I …

cant get a job 
I am 27 years old living on my own but I cant get a job no matter where I apply I'm either too over qualified or they aren't interested in me. I had my …

My Life Totallyyy Sux Emotionally and Sometimes Physicallyy -__- 
Ok where do I start...Well I was born I guess, one of the ugliest kids you've ever seen, big lips, crooked nose, and 1 big ear and 1 normal ear. I think …

Miriam  
I keep on getting a really bad school report I just can't be happy or have Confidence.

self confidence  
Hello, I have recently finished university and now have to find a full time graduate job. I got offered a sales job in a retail shop but they wanted …

im 17 years old with low self esteem 
I'm 17 years old.. I have a boyfriend who I love.. We've been going out for over a year now and he makes me feel like the best girl in the world.. My …

My husband needs girlfriends 
He has work friends that are women, young women. He likes to meet with them and talk. They are all married and much younger, and I don't think he is interested …

I feel alone and hopeless at 33 
I am 33 years old. A single woman. I have dealt with mental illness all of my life. My mother and father have both struggled with it many times, and …

I feel cold in the chest and sad all the time 
I just find it so hard to understand why I have remained single like forever... urm.. It's quite hard to come to the understanding that maybe I'm undateable …

He hurt me in the past, now I'm extremely insecure & I've lost trust.  
I've been with my boyfriend for a year & a half, but we have known each other for 4 years. We were seeing each other for 2 years & having sexual contact, …

my husband and I split up for good and I am 58 and never felt old & ugly tell now 
I had my husband who is a very immature 53 yr old leave in April because he had betrayed me and emotionally abused me. I never felt not good looking or …

16 yr old son has low self esteem, confidence 
My 16 yr old sons self esteem & confidence is low, lower than it should be. When Daniel was younger (grades K-8) he attended a very small private Lutheran …

Unhappy with my life 
I'm stuck. I have a job where the boss thinks we should work 24/7/365. He doesn't take vacations, why should we? I live in a town that I hate, which …

insecure co-workers 
This is my very first time to share my problem online. Good thing as I am surfing,I caught on this site. Here it goes, I have a very close friend …

I hate my life, I want to change 
At first I am feeling that my luck is very bad comparing to my friend, it is too hard to get anything or to achieve. I graduated from merchant navy …

I am sad, and lonely 
I am lonely but surrounded by people. I am bored but have lots to do. I am in my 40s, married, and have grown kids. I have a stable professional job …

Why do I always pick the wrong guys? 
As far back as I can remember I have always ended up with the so called "bad boy" type of men. I have dated a biker, an ex-con, and married an alcoholic …

friends 
Well my friend has been talking about me behind my back and i just cant take it any more its like I'm her puppy she can drop me when she wants and come …

Low self esteem 
Hi, my name is Phoebe, I'm in my mid twenties and have a boyfriend of 3 years but I have always struggled with low self esteem. I typed in 'low self esteem' …

Useless 
I am 14 and I go to a cheap public school in New York. I have few friends I can trust and I am bullied every day. I'm not a "geek" or a "nerd" I'm a normal …

I hate my life 
I'm only 14, but I hate my life. I live in Maryland and I go to an all girls private school. This past year was my first year there, it really wasn't that …

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Relationship being destroyed by low self esteem 
I've had low self since elementary school, I always had a problem with the way I look, always comparing myself to other girls along myself, why don't …

Trust andJealousy 
I just found out my husband has been having affair for 1-2 years. He states she was just for sex and is ending it. Can I trust again? We are going to …

Don't want to waste my life :-( 
Unfortunately, I'm still under 25 (I'm to be 22 in few weeks) but I can see my life fading away if I don't act fast. I would often hear my dad tell me …

Lack of Self Confidence 
I have lost my confidence and self-esteem because of my past experiences. Nowadays I am suffering a lot because I just want to join some professional work …

i find life boring, 
I have no real friends (its a fact), no one that I can talk to that would care, my job sucks, and I just hate life, it doesn't make any sense! I wake …

LONELY 
I'm hate my life. I feel like I am not needed by anyone. When I go to school, I'm always quiet and don't mix with my friends. But one day, at my grandmother …

No hope left 
I have a medical condition and I've been suffering for so many years. No medicine has worked and every SINGLE day, I suffer so much. You won't even believe …

Controlling Husband 
I m 24 and my husband is 29. I have been married for almost 2 years which would be in this Aug. It was a arrange come love marriage but I didn’t have feelings …

Fear of everything. 
There really isn't much to say, the title explains it all. Ever since I started at my new school I've been afraid. I had so much confidence before, I felt …

fear and failures 
I am a postgraduate(computer science. In childhood i had great fear of strangers. Teachers seemed to be ghosts. But at the age of 14 I improved a little, …

What do I do now 
I recently moved from Chicago to the small town I grew up in located in MA. I have a three year old and her father (we are together but not married) came …

Low Self-Esteem 
Ok so i'm 12 years old and i have a problem with having confidence in myself. Everything is a struggle to do without thinking about how I look when I do …

I get Angry and Jealous when my boyfriend goes out. 
I've always been this way. I am trying to change, but I'm scared to. If I change will he start doing the things that scare me, like cheating, flirting …

Self image my body 
It's like I just hate the way I look. I'm so ugly and I just want to fit in. Every day I take a shower with soap put on deodorant and a little perfume …

I'm sick of me! 
Where to start? How do I explain what my problem is when I can't get it right in my own head. I love my family and I am the first one to lose it if people …

my family is forcing me to marry some one i don't love even i don't like 
I am 19yrs and I don't want marry at this age.. but my family wants me to marry someone they like....he is above 30yrs... I hate him and I don't want see …

I have the answers in my head but dont know how to use them  
OK bear with me as I try to describe this as it is still hard for me to understand. The other day during a long sit with my self to self reflect I …

scared to be embarrassed  
I play high school football, and I don't go hard on the plays because I try to take myself out. I fear getting hit and be laughed at or talked about. …

Kate 
I keep leaving my jobs because Is suffer from low self esteem, thinking everyone opinion is worth more than mine and find it hard to open up and be me. …

My older brother hates me 
I am the second child of five and the only girl. My older brother has been mean to me since I was born. We are a year apart. He was mean when we were little …

the past 5 years 
My husband of 27 years got brain cancer 2 years and 2.5 million dollars later he died anyway. Three months later I broke my leg so badly I didn't even …

how to make up for missed opportunities 
I am 25, did not finish college, feel like lots of missed opportunities that my parents did not give me have made me unsuccessful. I have no job. …

I don't seem motivated to get a job and if I get one, I can't seem to last very long at it 
I will get a job and then I quit. I am not motivated to keep doing it and then I find I cannot physically do it anymore. I have always wanted to go …

18 year-old girl with low self esteem 
I have had a problem with my self esteem since I was in primary school. My low self esteem is caused by my physical appearance. I'm fat and everyone …

Feel like outcast by Kenya Greene 
A little voice in keeps telling me I will never be anything and it's very hard not being in college right now. I have a problem since I was a preteen …

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I do not see the point of life 
People won't employ me, I hate myself and think I genuinely would be better off in a box in the ground. I wanted to act, but that door has been shut so …

Having a hard time finding a job. 
Hi everyone! I am having a hard time on finding a job right now. I am seeking for a call center company, and I am not really good at speaking in English, …

Will just finish my college degree by 2011 and i havent work for a company yet 
I'm just about to graduate hopefully this year 2011 and I haven't tried working yet for a company Do you think the company will hire me, a low self …

Low Self-esteem and no confidence 
I am 16 and in high school. My low self esteem and confidence makes me unmotivated to do anything. I feel like everyone is staring at me and constantly …

Overwhelmed 
Coming from a family of Christians with an especially enthusiastic Christian dad, I have grown up with fear when I was supposed to have hope. I am Christian, …

I made friends with a man in Finland and very confused with my own feeling 
I became a member of a site to socialize with people from all over the world. I was focused on corresponding with native Russian speakers because I am …

School mid teens 
I'm 16 lost and in high school and recently moved. Back at my old school I had all my confidence and had many girlfriends, but as I moved I lost confidence …

I don't know what to do anymore 
My mom and I never get along, she hates me because I am fat. The thing is, I am not as fat as she makes me feel like. I do sports all year round so i have …

21 year old mom postpartum depression and have been cheated on 
I had three beautiful baby boys in the past three years all back to back. I have been going through my ups and downs with postpartum and to add another …

Childhood Trauma 
First of all, my English is not the best, and this might be a little out of topic, but anyway I am a 16 year old boy, and my problem is, when I was a little …

Anxiety 
Help, I am 48 years old and have suffered from anxiety for many years. Most days I feel scared and emotionally overwhelmed. Am wondering if medication …

depression 
I'm a 19 yr old girl with recurrent episodes of crying mainly during night or when I'm alone. Sometimes even a small sad thing makes me cry, and sometimes …

Just a problem 
Whenever I talk in front of a group of people at times I stammer and start shaking uncontrollably and my heart beats so fast. Even if I do the talking …

I am scared 
I am a 35 year old woman having two sweet little boys and have a joint family. My husband usually goes for his tours out of country every 2 months for …

disappointed in my family 
I feel no matter what I do or say it does not matter.

Battle in any thing trying to do 
It seems like when ever I try to accomplish something positive in my life it goes the opposite way, even with my thinking for it to have a good out come. …

low self-esteem 
Hi. My name is D and I'm in my mid-twenties. I've been struggling with low self-esteem for a quite while but it's been more intense since I got with …

I have no place in the world 
I'm turning 30 next week. I've had some good experiences in my life, but with this landmark birthday looming, and no good experiences in two years, …

I'm always struggling with life 
I have found myself homeless for the first time in my life. I am in a shelter right now and they are really caring people but I don't feel like it's worth …

I feel hopeless & think only negative. want to quit myself.. 
I'm just a 27 year old guy but in this age I am thinking to quit myself. Perhaps it was my mistake but I'm afraid to lose my girlfriend. I feel awful, …

I Hate My Life 
I hate my life. I'm barely a teenager and I feel like crap almost everyday. I find myself bawling at least once a week. Sometimes I saw the words "I want …

Feeling Worthless 
I am a stay at home mom of three boys, while my husband works. I was let go from my job a year and half ago and I made great money. In the past year, …

My low self esteem is causing me problems at work 
I find that I get blamed for things I did not do wrong and I almost never get credit for things that I do right. I expect that if I work hard and do a …

Life 
For the past 13 years I think I was living in a fantasy world. My dog and I were completely happy, full of joy, loved life, loved who I was and never …

I have no hope left.....I don't believe things will get better 
I use to be a half glass full girl and through a life of chaos and therapy, I became one with myself and was happy to be alive. Now after two years of …

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No confidence at ALL 
Hi I'm Amy. I'm 15 years old. I really hate myself. My skin tone is dark just like Alek Wek but lighter. I just moved to NY, I'm senegalese + French. …

Depression, Hopeless, Health Problems, and I feel life is not worth living  
Hi, I am a 30 year old female. I have been battling depression, health problems, hopelessness, and a feeling that my life is not worth living since Dec …

suddenly nuts 
Hi - I am a 44 year old woman - I have been married with two kids for 20 years... we met in college - and - married right after and have been happily married …

I am confused 
I am desperate. I feel empty and I am scared. "Fear is Love standing upside down". And all I do in life is fear. I guess I hate myself. I come from …

Trying to get the old me back 
I was diagnosed with degenerative disc disease, fibromyalgia, cfs and more. It has been very disabling in the past 12 years, and during all these years …

Sense of failure, guilt and permeating lack of self-confidence 
People reflect back to me that I have a lot going for me - a job as a business professor, being smart, married to a good guy, two good daughters, able …

Bad life choices... 
Hello, thanks for taking the time to read this. I am 30 years old and I have dug myself into a hole I cant seem to get out of. All my life I've been …

Hopeless and can't continue 
I'm a 42 year old black male with 3 children and going through a divorce with a women I have been with for 18 years. I recently was accepted to a university, …

I completely give up 
I am 28, and I never thought I'd ever feel this bad in my life. I have 3 kids...my whole childhood I was abused and raised by drunks and druggies. So basically …

Life is not worth living 
Ok, first of all, I hate sharing, but I am a mess right now. I am in my late 40's and unemployed. I also have an incurable form of cancer. Actually …

Extremely Insecure 
I am a 21 year old female. I used to be in a relationship with a girl who used to put me down a lot to the point that I became very vulnerable to anything …

looking for a better way 
I am a 30 year old black male with 4 kids. I have no high school diploma &, I come from the streets of Balto. About 5 years ago I decided to change my …

Chronic fear and depression every day 
I am encouraged to find this site. Thank you for sharing yourself with others and for providing an outlet for those who are suffering from depression/anxiety, …

I think i'm ugly and fat but other people don't 
Maybe they say it just to be nice but i'm 5'4" and weight 170, come on, I dont believe in myself that bad that I can't even stay on a diet! I have …

I feel depressed and have lost all hope 
I am 29 and I live in England. I have been living here for the past 10 years. Since moving here I have graduated from university and thought my life was …

I fail at relationships 
I've never been good at relationships. I mean, never. From my earliest youth I have failed to form proper relationships or bond with anyone -- even close …

Sick of trying to get through 
I woke in a strange bed with a guy bragging to his mate that there was blood on the sheet, they were laughing patting each other on the back for bagging …

Insecurity and negative thinking 
I started hanging out with 3 girls from school that I have never talked to before. One of them was tall and skinny with blonde hair, the other weighed …

Living in Hell 
I have read much of this site and have drawn a couple of conclusions: Many others share my problem and we are all wondering how to be free and happy. …

My boyfriend goes away without me 
He has used 3 weeks out of 4 to vacation with or go away for a night with others. He actually went away on a hiking trip in an area of the world with no …

Why can't I let past hurts go? 
I am a 31 year old female. I realize that things could always be worse and that other people have far worse problems than mine but here goes: I have …

Im stressed about university 
This is my first year of university, and exams are coming up next week. I have studied hard for the midterms and quizzes that I've had, but my mark has …

Changing the way I think about situations and the outcomes... 
I am 25 years old and I struggle with the negative thoughts and the the outcomes they produce before even attempting to solve the situation. I have …

Future security 
I have a problem regarding my future. I was a good student in 2006 completed my b.com and was doing GNIIT course. For the last Semester I had to go to …

My sister hates me 
First, I'm 12 years old and she is 16 only like a 3 year and 1 month difference but I feel like we are farther apart and not just in age. I mean I love …

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Depressed unable to function 
I am 26 years old and I'm still an undergrad. By the time I graduate it will have taken me 7 years to get my BA and I'll still have 2 years of grad school …

paranoia, low self confidence, low motivation 
I want to thank you for this website. I do need help but I don't know what it is. I struggle to speak with people. I have a business that could make me …

I'm a 22 yr old male I have always been put down  
I have always been put down by my mates as I'm the one who hates confrontation, it's knocked my self confidence. Two yrs ago whilst I was walking home …

have lost confidence in myself 
I am in college and I feel super low in myself. I need help, my marks are going down a lot. I was at a 90% and now I'm at a 50%. I feel like giving …

Stammering  
Hi am Vigneswar, am 29 years old and am practicing as an advocate. My one and only problem is stammering. I have it right from the age of 3. Because of …

Jealous when my boyfriend goes out without me 
When my boyfriend goes out I get jealous that he is having a better time without me, that somehow I am not good enough and maybe he will realise and then …

Confused, low confidence, and fearful of the situation, lazy 
I am going through bad patch of time that may be financially, career wise or relation wise. I want to get out of it, and want to know what I have to do …

Excluding myself, hiding my thoughts and feelings 
My dad and brothers made me feel stupid growing up. My dad was a lawyer (he passed away 5 years ago - he was an alcoholic), and my brothers are also extremely …

About my studying life ,,  
I'm a good student, I passed 2nd puc with distinction I also got good marks in common entrance test in 2009. I took medical because of my family force. …

Low self esteem and low self confidence  
Well I have never had a boyfriend and I'm 20. I have trouble with making friends. I think I'm pretty but guys don't come and talk to me and I know it's …

Mixed up, confused, lost 
I'm 19 years old and I have had no confidence through out my whole life. Lately I've been so paranoid about everything that goes on daily its driving …

Severe Lack of self-confidence 
I have no idea how or why but I can't seem to figure out how to regain my self confidence. I'm 54 and can't find a job either. I was a waitress for most …

Self esteem issues 
I don't know why, but I feel so down about myself. It started during my pregnancy when my husband started to seem distant from me (physically) which, …

Low Self Esteem 
I have always had periods of what I call funk in my life. I will just highlight my childhood. Molested from 4-7, my mom was a drug addict, arrested when …

Nothing up top and confidence when it comes to sex with my man? 
I've been with my man for over two years now, I love him so much, but when it comes to sex what confidence I do have goes right out the window and it's …

Stress 
Lately I cannot sleep. I am stressed out about my son being in Marine Boot Camp, about my male friend's wife because she thinks I like him that way, about …

LONLINESS ,NO GOOD FRIENDS AND LACK OF CONFI DENCE 
Iam a student of 3rd year BDS studying in MANIPAL UNIVERSITY IN KARNATAKA . Iam finding it difficult in making friends. Whenever I get along with some …

Negative thoughts / lack of confidence 
I have been doing a nearly impossible job for which I am not qualified for nearly 2 years and finally couldn't take it anymore. It made me hate waking …

Bullying  
When I was in secondary school I was bullied from year 7 to year 11 and since then my self esteem and self confidence is none exsistent. I don't believe …

fear of avoidance & negligence.. 
I am a 22 year old engineering student living in a hostel. I have a very peculiar problem. Most of my friends consider me as irksome and regard me as a …

I got the job over internal person who applied for job, now I'm her boss! 
I have just been offered a position as office manager. In my final interview the director mentioned the person that would be training me also applied for …

low confidence 
A few years back I ran away from home for a very silly reason. I had a fight with another student, I was 17 at the time. I got suspended, I could not face …

Trust 
I have been back stabbed multiple times by people I put my most trust in and I'm at a loss. It's like I'm not even myself anymore, like I'm dead on the …

Past Relationship Jealousy 
I'm 22 and have been with a perfect man for almost 3 years now. To me, our relationship is exactly a fairy-tale. At the beginning of our relationship, …

afraid of being looked down upon 
I know my problems apply to many other students seeking entry into university. In my country, those who cant make it into the elite universities will be …

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loving someone 
I am 28 years old and working. I had never had a boyfriend, I don't know why? I was more focused on my career until I met a guy, our new employee. At …

I hate my life 
I am 30 years old, just finished my post graduate training in a sub specialty of medicine (I am a doctor) and have a 9 month old cute baby daughter with …

why bother to exist 
I'm a male just turning 40 and everyone's been telling me it's down hill from here nothing to look forward to anymore. My brother in-law (sis husband) …

My Feelings 
I recently posted something up about having low self esteem and being jealous. It was causing me to lose my boyfriend of 14yrs. The father of my 3 kids. …

Tormented soul 
I am a 26 year old male, but by no means a man. All my life, I have held the belief that something is wrong with me; my time to date has been testament …

Depression and insecurity 
Hi there my name is Diana! I have a problem normally before this I had negative thinking but it doesn't interfere in my job or things I do lately. It all …

Overwhelmed by Everything 
I am a 58 year old women who has just retired. I have been divorced for 15 years (from a 25 year marriage)and have lived all those years alone. My 2 …

cant let go of my pain 
I am going to be 30 years old. I have a 1 year old baby. I was in a long distance relationship and together at times with my only boyfriend since I …

Too worried to do a backflip 
On the trampoline I really want to do a back flip. I used to but the next day I was too scared. I want to do side flips and diagonal flips which I also …

Unemployed, unmotivated, no self-esteem 
Hello all. Recently unemployed 48 year old male, husband, father of two teens. Having not much success in looking for work. The work I find is paying only …

Self Esteem and Jealousy 
I met my boyfriend when I was 13. We started dating when I was 14. We have been together 14yrs. and we have 3 great kids together. In this time I have …

just... LIFE. 
Everything seems too tough to handle, too big of a hurdle. Too much effort. I'm so tired that I can't do all the things that I think would make me happy. …

Lack of security 
It's my biggest fear - I feel insecure all the time. It crops up like a big monster at times in my relationship: fear of my partner dying, leaving me homeless, …

24/7 of boredom  
I grew up without parents and with other kids. We were randomly molested, mostly by older guys but sometimes by people who work there. It was terrible. …

I hate this life!! 
I think I am a very lovable guy!! I can't seem to find woman to stay with me. I was married the first time 13 years, the second 15 years. I just lost …

Feel Confused 
Today, I feel so so tired. I travel on foot from one internet cafe and to another. I don't know where I am going to go because I made mistakes again and …

Low Self-Esteem and Low Confidence 
I am 19 years old and have suffered from low self-esteem and low confidence for a long time. I haven't made any real friends in college yet, though I'm …

Coping with the shame and guilt of adultery. 
I cheated on my husband some years back and I am still ashamed and feel so guilty about my actions. I keep thinking, "How could I do that?" and "What was …

Boy problem 
I am 14yrs old. I really like this boy in my school. We talk on MSN a lot freely! Also I have his phone number. I don't call him but I do text him sometimes. …

Low self condifence 
I am 15 years old and as a child have always had a problem with confidence. I am doing my GCSEs within the next couple of years and I am predicted A and …

Loneliness 
I suffer from loneliness and no self confidence. Both are acute in their own way. I love making friends but no friend stays with me for long. It's like …

My Brother has not had a formal education is not working and is not willing to get married. 
My brother, my kid brother whom I love a lot is so much unlike me. He is 26 and did not complete his education. He does not have many friends and is not …

Wronged and lost self confidence 
I did something wrong and have been repenting for some time. I promised myself to NEVER do it again and will never ever do it again. However I am not able …

relationship issues 
This girl broke up with me for her ex. It really shouldn't bother me, but it did extremely bad. This has happened to me four times this year. The …

low confidence, insecurities, and anger. And oblivious to all. 
My younger brother is 16 and is a very talented person at many things, especially sports. He has always played sports and he likes to. Since reaching …

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depression, and low self confidence. 
I am 22 years old, since 3 years ago, I fell into this situation, a lot of thinking, and depression. Every time I try to get out of it, I step two steps, …

Avoidance 
Recently I have been through some tough relationships. I had a bad break up with my first ever real boyfriend, who criticised me greatly at the break up …

low confidence 
For as long as I have remembered I have always had trouble with low confidence and it definitely shows in my job where I work as a chef. It hold me back. …

My wife has drained me of my motivation to get back to my career 
My wife has been suffering from severe low self esteem and insecurities for 25 years due to poor treatment from from her mom and brother's. I have to suffer …

Two Different People 
I named my problem that because I feel as if I have changed as a person over the years. I went to a small grade school where I was at the top of my game. …

Confidence 
I have always suffered with low self esteem and always thrived on approval from other people but when put down it really knocks me back and I believe that …

Low Self Esteem and Depression 
My mother does not love me, and never has. She never hugged me, or told me that she loved me, or that I was exceptional in any way. My father did, but …

negative thoughts 
I recently read someone's story about how they felt stupid and how they made a lot of mistakes. Because they made these mistakes it made them feel stupid. …

I dont feel confident at all 
I was a very intelligent kid in my childhood who was full of confidence and active. I was a very fast learner and I can learn any new thing in just one …

lost my self-esteem 
I'm 22 and feel resentful towards my boyfriend of 15 months. We went through a period of lots of arguments and disagreements and during this time he said …

no self-confidence. 
This is the first time I'm confessing my problems, Nobody except you(the reader) knows I have had these feelings all my life. I'm a 26 year old male, …

self confidence, i think? 
Something is majorly wrong with me. I am a very successful girl. I am 18 and in uni, I'm very friendly and nice, and popular and all that you want. …

school  
I am only in grade 10 and I feel super low in myself. I need help my marks are going down a lot. I was at a 90 % and now I'm at a 60% I feel like …

Fear 
I have plenty of fears. A fear to present in front of class, a fear to go out, I just sit alone in my room. A fear to talk and listen or understand because …

I lost my boyfriend because of low self esteem 
My ex boyfriend and I had a huge misunderstanding and broke up. I realized after being without him that the problem was my self esteem. I hated myself. …

Finding a job 
I'm 21 and I'm having trouble coping with life in general really. I was made to leave my family home about 2 years ago because I refused to get a job and …

Self conscious no confidence 
I am 17 year old male and I need some big points because I feel like I am the suckiest person,ugly and fat and I cant seem to believe that I am an outgoing …

sibling rivalry 
I am 24 years old, married, and the mother of a 3 year old. My father passed away a little over a year ago and now my oldest sister and I just can't seem …

Fearful Thoughts 
My 5 year old sister has a huge fear of tornadoes she thinks about it too much how do I get her to stop.

Guilt from cheating on my husband 
I'm a 30 yr old woman, married for 8 yrs. I had a short term affair with a guy I met on the net. We had been physical too, but then, all of a sudden …

Shy with people and have low confidence and low self esteem  
I am really shy sometimes when talking with people and I feel inferior in front of other people. I have very low confidence... and even though I work …

Stress from school 
It takes me longer than most people to study for my classes. I have a difficult time taking tests because I freak out and either double guess myself or …

test and check stress. 
I am an airline pilot working in the middle east with a low cost airline. As everyone knows, pilots are tested every day and every flight, not only flying …

I feel stupid 
I am trying so hard to change my life, I am going back to school to get into nursing. The school work is not a problem, the problem is that in work (I …

Lost my self confidence 
I have been out of a job for the past several months. Since then I have been aggressively applying for jobs but have had no luck. The problem is - …

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anxiety 
I have Bipolar, Asthma and Excema - at various times have panicky feelings and some anger. Then start scratching my skin, which makes me more annoyed! …

no energy and no motivation 
I'm really having a hard time finding happiness in this world. A year ago I tried to commit suicide because my life has been one wild roller coaster that …

Obsessed with Husband's Every Move and Jealous of His Female Friends 
I've been married a few months and am expecting my first child. I am a complete mess. My husband is in a predominantly female field and around much …

I've lost all hope in life 
I'm a 48 year old male who was once at the top in business..alcohol and drugs have ruined my life along with the economy...I'm broke and lost...I …

Husband 
My husband constantly Googles everything I say to him puts me on trial (I must prove everything i say to him) For instance, if I did not see the mosquito …

Ashamed of past 
Ive always had a problem with alcohol although I am a lot better now. I used to drink regularly between the age of 16-25 to the extreme where I just never …

Tension 
My problem is whenever a job is assigned to me I quickly go into a panic rushing to finish the job. Because of this factor I get tense, and this results …

Older sister hates me. 
My sister and I are six years apart she is older and we have same Mother but different Fathers. I've always been a rebellious person did things I shouldn't …

I have missed my opportunities in life 
I am 56 years old and I have come to realize that I have missed my opportunities in life. This is all because I was afraid that I was not good enough. …

Exams fear 
My name is Fenix and my problem is that I used to be on top in class until I got 90/100 in English. English isn't my first language but failing in …

low confidence 
I've always been low on confidence all my life. I have had very few best friends. I never participate in group discussions because I'm soft spoken …

afraid of going out  
I have started getting nervous when anyone says come on lets go out. I do go out but then I start feeling unconscious, numbness. There is no reason …

I am completely lost and need help sorting out my direction 
I am 35 years old and in need of help but do not know where to turn. I am having a huge career crisis and have thoughts of doing something amazing …

My controlling husband  
My husband is becoming a very controlling and selfish person. He shouts and screams at me because he has no money, because he has to pay the rent, and …

Low self esteem 
All my life I've been put down and looked down upon. I always tried to fight back, and I always felt I had something to prove. I'm always searching …

My boyfriend always assumes that the negative is going to happen and he puts himself down 
When we talk about plans he always thinks that either it's not going to happen or that something bad will happen and ruin it. He doesn't like to talk …

Insecure about being single. 
I went through a lot of stuff all through school. During puberty, girls used to say I was a lesbian, not that there is anything wrong with them, (I'm straight …

no confidence 
This is for my brother. He has no friends, doesn't work and he's very lonely. He has to keep repeating himself when he talks, he has to have an exact …

insecure, low self esteem, anxiety..social anxiety and very jealous. 
I have no confidence in my self at all. I weigh 140 and I think I'm so fat and ugly. I have the worst hair in the world, it's medium length with straw …

I have done a lot and learned nothing from my experiences 
I am 60 now and I have been in automotive sales for 25 years. I lost my job due to the closing of my store. I have no energy, and I feel no one wants …

Fear of Heart Problem 
I always have the fear that am getting some heart problem. It's common these days that I go into a shattered condition if ever I get a mild shoulder …

Sometimes I feel I have so many problems I would drive Freud crazy. 
I'm the Poster boy for self esteem issues. Certainly my mind is filled with negative emotions even when I want to have a positive day I can't help but …

I have low self esteem 
Everything I try I can't do, no one ever wants to talk to me because I don't play sports. My family thinks I'm the black sheep. All my friends …

Jealousy of the past 
This probably sounds really silly, but is causing me a real problem. I have been married for over 25 years and my husband and I have a strong relationship. …

low esteem 
I have just started yet another job 12 weeks ago, and yet again I feel I don't belong there. It is in a doctors surgery as an HCA. On Friday my …

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Controlling Husband 
Left husband and filed for a divorce recently after 5 years into the marriage. He has been very controlling from all the money that I make and not allowing …

Low Self Confidence 
My main problem is that I suffer from varying bouts of low self confidence, low self esteem and anxiety. Normally my low self confidence causes anxiety …

Desperation 
It has been about 7 and a half years since I graduated from Occupational Therapy. I earned my B.S at the Universidad del Valle in Cali, Colombia, then …

jobless and hopeless at love 
I am finishing my level c ticket welding, I have looked online for jobs in this area and there isn't much. I have to leave my friends children to go …

My co-worker has been demoted and now I'm her boss! 
I have just been hired on with this company that has this new program. I worked for this company before with their previous program. But the previous …

fear 
I have developed fears, different types of fears I think. I was a very confident, energetic and sporty kid up until the age of 14, then my family …

Fear of diseases 
I was trying to find a solution to my problem when I came upon your site. The problem that I have is a strong fear of diseases. I developed it more …

Troubled Mom 
My mom is suffering from low self esteem and self confidence due to my dad's behavior. Dad doesn't want to work anymore and wants to do social service. …

My relationship with others 
I have a hard time gaining respect from friends, family etc. I don't know how to be assertive because I feel fearful and insecure most of the time. I dont …

I am not very popular at school and I am not good at socializing and meeting new people 
All of the other kids at school are good at socializing but I am very shy and self-conscious about myself and I am not very good at answering questions …

lack of confidence, sensitive and worse when not looking good 
I am always scared to speak up, do not ask more questions, I feel my spoken English not so good, I feel I do not look good. My husband sick so makes …

Anxiety, Guilt and Alcoholism 
I was working at the airline industry for 9 years. The working conditions in the last two years changed to the worst. That in return, gave me the drive …

Getting a love back 
I am in love with this man. He broke it off as it wasn't it for him. He said I was everything he wanted in a woman and I him. That confused me. He calls …

Despair from things that have happened; low confidence. 
I am 29 years old, male. I had a large operation on my chest when I was 16. It has affected my relationships with women a lot. I have rarely had sex …

Raymona 
I have been looking forward to a life that I am not going to get, I just looked at the states and they don't look good . I would like to get that money …

Friend's Low Self Esteem 
I am a male and I have a female friend who does not seem to feel good about herself and is overall not happy. She is completely stressed out and indicated …

Low self-confidence in my skills 
I'm not sure how old I used to be back then, but I just never used to pay much heed to my talents and skills. It's because of that blissful ignorance …

Controlling spouse 
I have been married for more than 10 years and have been suffering with low self confidence due to my husband's behavior. He is very controlling and …

How do I help my husband? 
My husband was recently laid off and is trying to find a job in this horrible economy. He is very intelligent and could be a great asset if given the …

Feeling lost and unmotivated 
I was married last year and my husband is my rock and knows everything about me, but personally I am having a hard time. I have struggled with an eating …

Why do I self-destruct when ever I have anything good in my life 
Since I was a child I have always ruined anything I have had good in my life. But I have noticed it more in the last couple of years. I'm 32 now so …

Nothing good in life 
Had a bad time with my dad when we were younger, he pushed my mum about a lot & cheated for many yrs, after having children with someone else he left, …

Getting beat up 
I got into a fight and lost it really pains me to write this because I never have lost a fight. And now people know and they taunt me. And the worst part …

Low self esteem  
I've been feeling really down lately and am finding it so hard to snap out of it. When I was young I suffered from depression due to being bullied …

Shyness/ Low confidence 
I am fortunate in the sense that I am studying for a career which I love. In a years time I will qualify as an architect, after 6 years of hard studying …

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Low Self Esteem 
I have got a negative programming. Now I want to replace it with positive. What to do?

Fear  
I am getting into a depression phase. I'm feeling so bad that I don't sleep as usual. I lost weight. And I feel there's a heavy thing on my heart that …

Low With Confidence 
Male age-21, educated kind of person. Hey friends. I was never in such a mood. I used to make friends very easily, I was very fast in my work. My confidence …

Bipolar disorder, Unstable personality, No self-esteem. 
I am X years old and, for the last 10 years have been plagued with an extremely unstable personality disorder. I used to be very confident in my abilities …

Low self esteem and self confidence--can anyone help me? 
I've had low self esteem and low confidence ever since I was very young. I never find myself to be pretty enough, tan enough, or just generally, ENOUGH …

Studies affected by low self esteem 
I have low self esteem and lack of confidence I admit it. I am an average student I get B's and C's and at the moment am doing a Bachelor of Science …

Brother doesn't want to get married 
My brother doesn't want to get married. He is 40+. This is causing a lot of grief to my family, especially my mother. She doesn't want to come out in public, …

Marriage and being dark-skinned 
I am a 26 year old Indian woman and most people may know how Indians are obsessed with fairer skin. The thing is I am not ready for marriage but my …

Young Teenagers Leaving Home Without Prior Warning 
During the last two weeks, I have a number of anguished e mails from a mother worried for the welfare of her 17 year old daughter who has never posed …

I can only focus on the negative. 
Shortly after the birth of my 7 month old son, I lost all self confidence and began dwelling heavily on negative thoughts. Ive always had issues with depression. …

conflict with a co-worker 
I went away on holiday and found a temp to do my job until I came back. When I returned she had decided that she liked and wanted my job permanently. …

I have low self steem 
When I get in trouble a lot I always say I am stupid and I end up putting my self down a lot when do I poorly every time. I try to raise and my friends …

Wrong allegations at work 
Someone complained about me having a business which violates my companies code of conflict. The ethics dept. took my PC away at the middle of a hectic …

emitophobia and anxiety 
I have severe emitophobia and panic attacks. They just start out of nowhere. The other day I had one in the washroom and now I always feel scared going …

negative thoughts 
I admit that I have low self esteem and negative thoughts, I have accomplished a lot in my life time but cant seem to get past the negative, heart breaks …

Problem with my mom complaining about my dad 
My problem is related to money, which sparks conflicts between my parents all the time. Problem is :- My dad likes to make donations to anyone/anything …

Paranoia no self confidence and low self esteem 
I have just finished my first year at university and have got say its been one of the worst years of my life so far. I suffer from pretty bad paranoia …

Poor Self Esteem and Jealousy 
HI I'M GOING A BIT CRAZY THESE DAYS WITH MY HUSBAND. I NEVER HAD THIS PROBLEM BEFORE. I HAVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND FOR 10 YEARS AND IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN A …

low confidence 
I am suffering from low confidence. I'm not able to speak with people, my throat gets dry, I start stammering and start sweating. I cannot speak with people …

Depression anxiety sleep disturbance 
I have been diagnosed with depression in 1996 and I have had 4-5 episodes. The last one was in 2007 November and I have still not recovered. I am on …

no motivation and low self esteem 
I am a sophomore in college and i have a low self esteem, and very low motivation. I have felt like this my whole life. I have always felt like an outsider, …

How does one begin rise above the anxiety of being in public and feeling less then others? 
My problem is that I feel ugly, beneath everyone. I am afraid of being in public for fear of being mocked and laughed at. I know realistically that …

Lack of motivation 
The homelessness feeling I had last summer expanded - what a great conqueror it proved to be. I've lost sight of every shore, I do not remember anything.....lost...lost.. …

depression, low self esteem, no motivation 
I am 30 years old and I can't keep a job. I suffer from a lack of self confidence, very low self esteem and no motivation to follow my dreams. I thought …

No confidence 
I hate myself because I have no confidence at all. I am scared to make decisions out of fear of what someone might think about it. I am not good with people …

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Lack of Motivation 
I am diagnosed with severe depression. I know what I need to do to have a better life, and that is what I want to do, but I don't have the motivation. …

Difficulty getting organized 
I'm a newspaper writer who dreams about writing a book. My problem is that I have trouble organizing my thoughts. I am all over the place, and scattered. …

self confidence 
I am 19 and in college I have a fear of vomiting it's not exactly vomiting it is that what others will think if I vomit. Every time I am with people or …

My older brother hates me? Why? 
Ever since I was about 6 my brother hated me.(note I'm almost 12). I can't remember the last time I shared a good day with him. All my life I've been …

i have no future 
My life is dreadful at best. I was born in a very poor country called Uzbekistan. My life was somewhat like a life of kids from Africa. I was always hungry, …

Loss of my baby 
I lost 2 of my babies in last 1 1/2years. One at 3 months and other one at 6 months. Doctors couldn't find heart beat when went for a check up and the …

my older sister 
Hey, my sister is 14 years older than me and she is never around me or my family, she's always with other people and she calls them her family but she …

self conscious  
Any time I am in a group of people, I start feeling self conscious about myself, then I start getting anxious.

self conscious  
Any time I am in a group of people, I start feeling self conscious about myself, then I start getting anxious.

feeling trapped in every aspect 
I am 32 & was married for 13 yrs. An infatuation started with my husbands friend & that ended my marriage. I deeply regret it. My 15 yr. old daughter …

I have this friend.. 
Okay, so I have this friend and almost every conversation we have over text turns into her saying she's ugly or fat. She even feels like I hate her and …

No self confidence and I feel depressed. 
I am 15 years old and I think I'm depressed. Everyday I look at myself I think I'm very fat and ugly. All of my friends tell me I'm not and I just don't …

Dad has given me low self esteem 
After 25 years of suffering this.... it has only just dawned on me that this is where the problem lies. It seems to make a lot of sense now but has taken …

low self esteem is ruining my relationship 
Hi i am a 19 year old female. I have always been naturally skinny and am currently 5'2 and 102lbs. I have very small breasts and wider hips. I hate my …

No taste for life..  
I'm 18 years old and I don't feel the need to do anything with my life. I've been teased for medical problems since elementary school. I had little to …

STUPIDITY 
I feel stupid! I am 45 and changed work departments in August. But, when a co-worker, after having explained something to me, and I either don't get it …

I didn't marry them, you did. 
My son married a girl whose best friends are bullies and before the wedding they all bullied my daughter. She claimed it wasn't her, however, it was done …

Sister and family arguements of coflict and I get so nervous or frustrated about that 
My sisters try and argue about things that are not worth arguing about and sometimes they conflict which leads to a fight even sometimes to the family …

Average GPA At An Ivy League School 
I graduated in 4 years from an Ivy League school with two majors. However, my GPA was average and not high enough for medical school. In the year after …

false accusation 
I am the oldest sister of 5 children.one brother. The middle child, my sister,6 years younger, in a conversation 2 months ago, accused me …

Making friends 
I have difficulty in making friends, I'm a nurse even I'm working with many staff but I don't have any close friends. I'm studying at the same time …

Can't lift my mood 
I always seem in a negative state of mind and it really drags me down and the people around me. I always feel tearful and have painful memories filling …

no confidence helpless... 
I'm 21 years old and started a new job 5 weeks ago as a receptionist .. I'm normally shy around strangers I have very little confidence so whenever im …

21 and dont know what to do? [big problem] 
"hey i am 21 years old and I haven't finished my studies like class 10 I feel stupid seriously I want to know if I can still study and finish it and get …

ABCD*E(American Born Confused Desi Excluded) 
Desi stands for Indian or is a term Indian use. So Indians have a completely strict culture, no dating. In my case it was also no listening to love songs …

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Out of Place... 
I just started my freshman year of high school. I'm having trouble making new friends in all of my classes. I try talking to people and sometimes it …

It's finally gotten to me 
I've always been the second choice, and I used to use that to empower me. But now, all I seem to be able to do is sit and remember every horrible thing …

Never finding a suitable job again 
After getting fired for job performance, wrong job they say. I'm really wondering what is out there and where I can go. My days are terribly boring and …

Low Self Esteem ... crushed by loss of relationship and employment 
I can't handle any more rejection - I went from doing pretty okay, to no one hiring me and my boyfriend telling me in sly ways from the moment I moved …

hair 
My mom cuts my hair very short every time. I personally like it long. Everyone likes it long.. except for my mom. She makes me look like sh*t every time …

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