Avoidance  Recently I have been through some tough relationships. I had a bad break up with my first ever real boyfriend, who criticised me greatly at the break up ...

low confidence  For as long as I have remembered I have always had trouble with low confidence and it definitely shows in my job where I work as a chef. It hold me back....

My wife has drained me of my motivation to get back to my career  My wife has been suffering from severe low self esteem and insecurities for 25 years due to poor treatment from from her mom and brother's. I have to suffer ...

Two Different People  I named my problem that because I feel as if I have changed as a person over the years. I went to a small grade school where I was at the top of my game....

Confidence  I have always suffered with low self esteem and always thrived on approval from other people but when put down it really knocks me back and I believe that ...

Low Self Esteem and Depression  My mother does not love me, and never has. She never hugged me, or told me that she loved me, or that I was exceptional in any way. My father did, but ...

negative thoughts  I recently read someone's story about how they felt stupid and how they made a lot of mistakes. Because they made these mistakes it made them feel stupid....

Low self esteem however I feel at work I overworked and not appreciated  I recently graduated at university of Teeside with a first class honours in creative digital media. I then completed a fellowship with a former colleague ...

I dont feel confident at all  I was a very intelligent kid in my childhood who was full of confidence and active. I was a very fast learner and I can learn any new thing in just one ...

lost my self-esteem  I'm 22 and feel resentful towards my boyfriend of 15 months. We went through a period of lots of arguments and disagreements and during this time he said ...

no self-confidence.  This is the first time I'm confessing my problems, Nobody except you(the reader) knows I have had these feelings all my life.

I'm a 26 year old male,...

self confidence, i think?  Something is majorly wrong with me. I am a very successful girl. I am 18 and in uni, I'm very friendly and nice, and popular and all that you want.

I'...

school  

I am only in grade 10 and I feel super low in myself. I need help my marks are going down a lot. I was at a 90 % and now I'm at a 60% I feel like ...

Fear  I have plenty of fears. A fear to present in front of class, a fear to go out, I just sit alone in my room. A fear to talk and listen or understand because ...

I lost my boyfriend because of low self esteem  My ex boyfriend and I had a huge misunderstanding and broke up. I realized after being without him that the problem was my self esteem. I hated myself....

Finding a job  I'm 21 and I'm having trouble coping with life in general really. I was made to leave my family home about 2 years ago because I refused to get a job and ...

Self conscious no confidence  I am 17 year old male and I need some big points because I feel like I am the suckiest person,ugly and fat and I cant seem to believe that I am an outgoing ...

sibling rivalry  I am 24 years old, married, and the mother of a 3 year old. My father passed away a little over a year ago and now my oldest sister and I just can't seem ...

Fearful Thoughts  My 5 year old sister has a huge fear of tornadoes she thinks about it too much how do I get her to stop.

Guilt from cheating on my husband  I'm a 30 yr old woman, married for 8 yrs. I had a short term affair with a guy I met on the net.

We had been physical too, but then, all of a sudden ...

Shy with people and have low confidence and low self esteem   I am really shy sometimes when talking with people and I feel inferior in front of other people. I have very low confidence... and even though I work ...

Stress from school  It takes me longer than most people to study for my classes. I have a difficult time taking tests because I freak out and either double guess myself or ...

test and check stress.  I am an airline pilot working in the middle east with a low cost airline. As everyone knows, pilots are tested every day and every flight, not only flying ...

I feel stupid  I am trying so hard to change my life, I am going back to school to get into nursing. The school work is not a problem, the problem is that in work (I ...

Lost my self confidence  I have been out of a job for the past several months. Since then I have been aggressively applying for jobs but have had no luck.

The problem is - I ...

anxiety  I have Bipolar, Asthma and Excema - at various times have panicky feelings and some anger. Then start scratching my skin, which makes me more annoyed!...

no energy and no motivation  I'm really having a hard time finding happiness in this world. A year ago I tried to commit suicide because my life has been one wild roller coaster that ...

I hate my life and feel hopeless  I am 30 now but still living with my parents. It is demoralizing. I have never felt fully happy because even as a child I was semi-conscious of the fact ...

Obsessed with Husband's Every Move and Jealous of His Female Friends  I've been married a few months and am expecting my first child. I am a complete mess.

My husband is in a predominantly female field and around much ...

I've lost all hope in life 

I'm a 48 year old male who was once at the top in business..alcohol and drugs have ruined my life along with the economy...I'm broke and lost...I ...

Husband  My husband constantly Googles everything I say to him puts me on trial (I must prove everything i say to him) For instance, if I did not see the mosquito ...

Ashamed of past  Ive always had a problem with alcohol although I am a lot better now. I used to drink regularly between the age of 16-25 to the extreme where I just never ...

Tension  My problem is whenever a job is assigned to me I quickly go into a panic rushing to finish the job. Because of this factor I get tense, and this results ...

Older sister hates me.  My sister and I are six years apart she is older and we have same Mother but different Fathers. I've always been a rebellious person did things I shouldn'...

I have missed my opportunities in life  I am 56 years old and I have come to realize that I have missed my opportunities in life. This is all because I was afraid that I was not good enough. As ...

Exams fear  My name is Fenix and my problem is that I used to be on top in class until I got 90/100 in English.

English isn't my first language but failing in ...

low confidence  I've always been low on confidence all my life. I have had very few best friends.

I never participate in group discussions because I'm soft spoken ...

afraid of going out   I have started getting nervous when anyone says come on lets go out. I do go out but then I start feeling unconscious, numbness. There is no reason ...

I am completely lost and need help sorting out my direction  I am 35 years old and in need of help but do not know where to turn.

I am having a huge career crisis and have thoughts of doing something amazing ...

My controlling husband   My husband is becoming a very controlling and selfish person. He shouts and screams at me because he has no money, because he has to pay the rent, and ...

Low self esteem  All my life I've been put down and looked down upon. I always tried to fight back, and I always felt I had something to prove. I'm always searching ...

My boyfriend always assumes that the negative is going to happen and he puts himself down  When we talk about plans he always thinks that either it's not going to happen or that something bad will happen and ruin it. He doesn't like to talk ...

Insecure about being single.  I went through a lot of stuff all through school. During puberty, girls used to say I was a lesbian, not that there is anything wrong with them, (I'm straight ...

no confidence  This is for my brother. He has no friends, doesn't work and he's very lonely. He has to keep repeating himself when he talks, he has to have an exact ...

insecure, low self esteem, anxiety..social anxiety and very jealous.  I have no confidence in my self at all. I weigh 140 and I think I'm so fat and ugly. I have the worst hair in the world, it's medium length with straw ...

I have done a lot and learned nothing from my experiences  I am 60 now and I have been in automotive sales for 25 years. I lost my job due to the closing of my store.

I have no energy, and I feel no one wants ...

Fear of Heart Problem  I always have the fear that am getting some heart problem.

It's common these days that I go into a shattered condition if ever I get a mild shoulder ...

Sometimes I feel I have so many problems I would drive Freud crazy.  I'm the Poster boy for self esteem issues.
Certainly my mind is filled with negative emotions even when I want to have a positive day I can't help but ...

I have low self esteem 
Everything I try I can't do, no one ever wants to talk to me because I don't play sports. My family thinks I'm the black sheep.


All my friends ...

Jealousy of the past  This probably sounds really silly, but is causing me a real problem. I have been married for over 25 years and my husband and I have a strong relationship....

low esteem  I have just started yet another job 12 weeks ago, and yet again I feel I don't belong there. It is in a doctors surgery as an HCA.

On Friday my ...

Controlling Husband  Left husband and filed for a divorce recently after 5 years into the marriage. He has been very controlling from all the money that I make and not allowing ...

Low Self Confidence  My main problem is that I suffer from varying bouts of low self confidence, low self esteem and anxiety.

Normally my low self confidence causes anxiety ...

Desperation  It has been about 7 and a half years since I graduated from Occupational Therapy. I earned my B.S at the Universidad del Valle in Cali, Colombia, then ...

jobless and hopeless at love  I am finishing my level c ticket welding, I have looked online for jobs in this area and there isn't much.

I have to leave my friends children to go ...

My co-worker has been demoted and now I'm her boss!  I have just been hired on with this company that has this new program.

I worked for this company before with their previous program. But the previous ...

fear  I have developed fears, different types of fears I think.

I was a very confident, energetic and sporty kid up until the age of 14, then my family ...

Fear of diseases  I was trying to find a solution to my problem when I came upon your site.

The problem that I have is a strong fear of diseases. I developed it more ...

Troubled Mom  My mom is suffering from low self esteem and self confidence due to my dad's behavior.

Dad doesn't want to work anymore and wants to do social service....

My relationship with others  I have a hard time gaining respect from friends, family etc. I don't know how to be assertive because I feel fearful and insecure most of the time. I dont ...

I am not very popular at school and I am not good at socializing and meeting new people  All of the other kids at school are good at socializing but I am very shy and self-conscious about myself and I am not very good at answering questions ...

lack of confidence, sensitive and worse when not looking good  I am always scared to speak up, do not ask more questions, I feel my spoken English not so good, I feel I do not look good.

My husband sick so makes ...

Anxiety, Guilt and Alcoholism  I was working at the airline industry for 9 years. The working conditions in the last two years changed to the worst. That in return, gave me the drive ...

Getting a love back  I am in love with this man. He broke it off as it wasn't it for him. He said I was everything he wanted in a woman and I him. That confused me. He calls ...

Despair from things that have happened; low confidence.  I am 29 years old, male. I had a large operation on my chest when I was 16. It has affected my relationships with women a lot.

I have rarely had sex ...

Raymona  I have been looking forward to a life that I am not going to get, I just looked at the states and they don't look good .

I would like to get that money ...

Friend's Low Self Esteem  I am a male and I have a female friend who does not seem to feel good about herself and is overall not happy.

She is completely stressed out and indicated ...

Low self-confidence in my skills  I'm not sure how old I used to be back then, but I just never used to pay much heed to my talents and skills.

It's because of that blissful ignorance ...

Controlling spouse  I have been married for more than 10 years and have been suffering with low self confidence due to my husband's behavior.

He is very controlling and ...

How do I help my husband?  My husband was recently laid off and is trying to find a job in this horrible economy.

He is very intelligent and could be a great asset if given the ...

Feeling lost and unmotivated  I was married last year and my husband is my rock and knows everything about me, but personally I am having a hard time.

I have struggled with an eating ...

Why do I self-destruct when ever I have anything good in my life  Since I was a child I have always ruined anything I have had good in my life. But I have noticed it more in the last couple of years.

I'm 32 now so ...

Nothing good in life  Had a bad time with my dad when we were younger, he pushed my mum about a lot & cheated for many yrs, after having children with someone else he left, then ...

Getting beat up  I got into a fight and lost it really pains me to write this because I never have lost a fight. And now people know and they taunt me. And the worst part ...

Low self esteem   I've been feeling really down lately and am finding it so hard to snap out of it.

When I was young I suffered from depression due to being bullied ...

Shyness/ Low confidence  I am fortunate in the sense that I am studying for a career which I love. In a years time I will qualify as an architect, after 6 years of hard studying ...

Low Self Esteem 
I have got a negative programming. Now I want to replace it with positive. What to do?

Fear   I am getting into a depression phase. I'm feeling so bad that I don't sleep as usual. I lost weight. And I feel there's a heavy thing on my heart that ...

Low With Confidence  Male age-21, educated kind of person. Hey friends.
I was never in such a mood. I used to make friends very easily, I was very fast in my work. My confidence ...

Bipolar disorder, Unstable personality, No self-esteem.  I am X years old and, for the last 10 years have been plagued with an extremely unstable personality disorder.

I used to be very confident in my abilities ...

Low self esteem and self confidence--can anyone help me?  I've had low self esteem and low confidence ever since I was very young. I never find myself to be pretty enough, tan enough, or just generally, ENOUGH ...

Studies affected by low self esteem  I have low self esteem and lack of confidence I admit it.

I am an average student I get B's and C's and at the moment am doing a Bachelor of Science ...

Brother doesn't want to get married  My brother doesn't want to get married. He is 40+. This is causing a lot of grief to my family, especially my mother. She doesn't want to come out in public,...

Marriage and being dark-skinned  I am a 26 year old Indian woman and most people may know how Indians are obsessed with fairer skin.

The thing is I am not ready for marriage but my ...

Young Teenagers Leaving Home Without Prior Warning 
During the last two weeks, I have a number of anguished e mails from a mother worried for the welfare of her 17 year old daughter who has never posed ...

I can only focus on the negative.  Shortly after the birth of my 7 month old son, I lost all self confidence and began dwelling heavily on negative thoughts. Ive always had issues with depression....

conflict with a co-worker  I went away on holiday and found a temp to do my job until I came back. When I returned she had decided that she liked and wanted my job permanently.

She ...

I have low self steem  When I get in trouble a lot I always say I am stupid and I end up putting my self down a lot when do I poorly every time.

I try to raise and my friends ...

Wrong allegations at work  Someone complained about me having a business which violates my companies code of conflict. The ethics dept. took my PC away at the middle of a hectic ...

emitophobia and anxiety  I have severe emitophobia and panic attacks. They just start out of nowhere.

The other day I had one in the washroom and now I always feel scared going ...

negative thoughts  I admit that I have low self esteem and negative thoughts, I have accomplished a lot in my life time but cant seem to get past the negative, heart breaks ...

Problem with my mom complaining about my dad  My problem is related to money, which sparks conflicts between my parents all the time.

Problem is :- My dad likes to make donations to anyone/anything ...

Paranoia no self confidence and low self esteem  I have just finished my first year at university and have got say its been one of the worst years of my life so far.

I suffer from pretty bad paranoia ...

Poor Self Esteem and Jealousy  HI I'M GOING A BIT CRAZY THESE DAYS WITH MY HUSBAND. I NEVER HAD THIS PROBLEM BEFORE. I HAVE BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND FOR 10 YEARS AND IT HAS ALWAYS BEEN A ...

low confidence  I am suffering from low confidence. I'm not able to speak with people, my throat gets dry, I start stammering and start sweating. I cannot speak with people ...

Depression anxiety sleep disturbance  I have been diagnosed with depression in 1996 and I have had 4-5 episodes. The last one was in 2007 November and I have still not recovered.

I am on ...

no motivation and low self esteem  I am a sophomore in college and i have a low self esteem, and very low motivation. I have felt like this my whole life. I have always felt like an outsider,...

How does one begin rise above the anxiety of being in public and feeling less then others?  My problem is that I feel ugly, beneath everyone. I am afraid of being in public for fear of being mocked and laughed at.

I know realistically that ...

Lack of motivation  The homelessness feeling I had last summer expanded - what a great conqueror it proved to be. I've lost sight of every shore, I do not remember anything....

depression, low self esteem, no motivation  I am 30 years old and I can't keep a job. I suffer from a lack of self confidence, very low self esteem and no motivation to follow my dreams.
I thought ...

no confidence  I hate myself because I have no confidence at all I am scared to make decisions out of fear of what someone might think about it, I am not good with people ...

Lack of Motivation  I am diagnosed with severe depression. I know what I need to do to have a better life, and that is what I want to do, but I don't have the motivation. I ...

Difficulty getting organized  I'm a newspaper writer who dreams about writing a book. My problem is that I have trouble organizing my thoughts. I am all over the place, and scattered....