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Older sister hates me.

My sister and I are six years apart she is older and we have same Mother but different Fathers. I've always been a rebellious person did things I shouldn't but that's who I am.

Anyways my sister tells my 20 year old daughter things I've done in the past, tells her I'm a thief and a drug addict etc. Tells my parents a bunch of stuff that isn't true. In general she really hates me, says to me that I make her sick, that she cant stand the site of me, and we never talk and when we do its f_____ you etc.

I love my sister idolized her and she hates me. A dear friend of mine who didn't know my sister saw her and I together one day and said to me later, be careful she'll see to it that you're either in jail for a long time or see you dead.

She doesn't invite me to her new home or any family things which is sad because our parents are old. My Dad is 82 and our Mother I believe is 77. There's so much more to say but I will stop for now.

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sad and confused

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Twin sister hates me
by: Alanna

I have an extremely racist family. Parents and twin sister do not like my boyfriend of 2 years from Poland. They think hes black, muslim, a terrorist, going to sell me into prostituion and slavery, well the list goes on.
I have told them laundry should be the only thing seperated by colour.

So I basically don't talk to my family anymore, once in a while i see them. My sister blames me for ruining the family when I did nothing wrong except love a guy.
My sister's birthday is coming up, well both of ours and i dont know what to get her anymore cause she hates me and says "f*** you", and threw our all my cards I ever gave her in her lifetime. So i dont know, we'll see, something small, it will either make me look like a hero if she doesnt give me a gift infront of my family or it will save my a**, cause who knows if she is giving me a gift.
G'luck everyone.

for all those with older sisters who hate them
by: Anonymous

Make sure your parents have a living trust because these issues with their contempt can go into how you are allowed to interract with parents.

My mom moved in with older sister who hates me and I am now only allowed to contact my mom if younger sister (who also hates me) is listening in on the phone. My mom and I spoke daily for 30 years and we were close. Now, they will not allow her to speak with me unless they are listening in.

Older sister will not let me know how she is spending it on her care, etc. My name is not on accounts. They don't update me on my mom's health care. If they hate you, make sure that your parents take steps in their trust and/or will to separate the estate from the contempt of the older sister for you.

My sister is close in age but not in life
by: Anonymous

My sister is 16 and I am turning 15 soon. She really gets on my nerves sometimes, for example, calling me names, always trying to annoy me, etc. The worst part is I can't avoid her because we live in the same room.

Also when I want privacy away from everyone, she is always in the room. I am not sure what to do but I need help in not trying to kill her every second of the day.

Older Sister Hates Me
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My sister is 8 years older than me.

She also will not invite me to her home, in fact I am not allowed to bring it up. She said if I ever mention again that I want to visit her, she will stop communicating with me. I have not done anything wrong to her. I ask her the reason why she dislikes me so much and she will not comment.

My older sister is very rich and I am poor. Since the death of my Mother, she broke loose and now treats me even worse. She will not help me financially. I send her birthday cards, write her emails, and she responds with another accusation.

I too, idolized her my whole life. I have tried everything I know to get her approval but it is to no avail. I told her I have diabetes, which I do. Months later, she brings this up and says I am a liar, that I would be on insulin if I really had it. I told her it is diabetes II, and it is not bad enough for injections. She asked me to prove I had it. I sent her the doctor report. She then said that my doctor is stupid like me.

VERY SAD and CONFUSED

BECKY

problems from past
by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. I feel the important issue here is the relationship you have with your daughter. Have you been honest with her about the things you have done in the past? If you can say yes, then nothing your sister tells her should make her turn against you because she has heard everything, and exactly how it happened from you.

Explain to your daughter that things you have done have perhaps not been the right things to do, that you made mistakes, and that you have learned from these and have put them firmly back in the past where they belong, and now live your life in a different way.

The past belongs in the past and shouldn't be raked up time and time again, however your sister doesn't seem to appreciate this. Each time she says these things to you she is reinforcing her dislike, and if she could forget the past and take each day as a new beginning things might become easier for her.

However you cannot change the way she is, but you can change how you react. She makes you feel bad because of the way she is, but if you can stop reacting to her comments (not easy, I know) this will stop you getting upset and stop the bad feelings circulating back and forth between the two of you.

Concentrate on the relationship you have with your daughter, and make it an open and honest one and this will draw you closer to each other.

Good luck for the future.
Kay

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Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. I feel the important issue here is the relationship you have with your daughter. Have you been honest with her about the things you have done in the past? If you can say yes, then nothing your sister tells her should make her turn against you because she has heard everything, and exactly how it happened from you. Explain to your daughter that things you have done have perhaps not been the right things to do, that you made mistakes, and that you have learned from these and have put them firmly back in the past where they belong, and now live your life in a different way. The past belongs in the past and shouldn't be raked up time and time again, however your sister doesn't seem to appreciate this. Each time she says these things to you she is reinforcing her dislike, and if she could forget the past and take each day as a new beginning things might become easier for her. However you cannot change the way she is, but you can change how you react. She makes you feel bad because of the way she is, but if you can stop reacting to her comments (not easy, I know) this will stop you getting upset and stop the bad feelings circulating back and forth between the two of you. Concentrate on the relationship you have with your daughter, and make it an open and honest one and this will draw you closer to each other. Good luck for the future. Kay

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