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Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. When we love someone totally we love them no matter what they are like, and if we see they have a problem, we shouldn't judge them or use hurtful words, but encourage them in their attempt to better themselves, assuming they want to be helped. Hurtful words sear the soul, they go deep within and lay bubbling away waiting to come up to the surface to hurt all over again when they are thought about. This is the amazing thing with them, they are only thoughts, and we, if we are determined enough, can conquer them by refusing to let them hurt us again. This is done (and it's not easy, I know) by not reacting to them. It is this reaction that is causing the pain you feel each time you think of them. Can you, when you feel them coming into your mind, replace them with positive words that help you, maybe, "I am strong and confident" "I am very worthwhile" I love myself, I am beautiful." Continue to work on your self esteem, but do it for you, not for anyone else. Know your own importance and if this isn't accepted by your boyfriend, then, as you rightly say, it is his problem not yours. He has to accept you as you are, or move on, unless of course this is not what you want. You deserve someone who loves you for how you are. Stay determined to work on yourself for your sake though. When you change your thoughts from negative to positive as often as you can you will definitely improve your self esteem. It may not be easy for you, but you sound to me as though you are a strong young woman, and so I am sure that as time progresses you will improve and become the way you long to be. Remember, it's your own thoughts that shape how you are and what you do. Your attitude is vital, make it a positive one and you will change your life. Love Kay

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