Overwhelmed by Everything

by Lucy
(NJ)

I am a 58 year old women who has just retired. I have been divorced for 15 years (from a 25 year marriage)and have lived all those years alone. My 2 grown children who live 15 minutes away rarely ever visit or call.


I have poured my heart out to them about their lack of interest in me and have gotten nowhere. I have lived my entire life in the same small town and have always wanted to live somewhere else. I just visited a former co-worker in NC to consider moving there. I really liked the area where she lives and could see myself living there. It is a big decision and I feel I have no one to talk to about this who would give me any support. I know it is my decision to make but I have to make EVERY decision in my life by myself and it overwhelms me tremendously.

Sometimes I just want to lean on someone or feel some support by another human being. Lately it seems every little thing I need to do overwhelms me. I think that if I moved maybe my life would be different. Maybe I would be in a community where I didn't feel so alone as I do now. But then again I could move and everything could be the same as it is now.

I have tried volunteering with several programs in my community and never hear back from any of them. It seems everywhere I turn I feel rejected. I know its up to me to make my life what I want it to be but after years of being on my own and feeling a lot of heartache I just can't seem to succeed in finding a happy place.

I am considering going to counseling which I have done so many times, I've lost count. Paying someone to listen to me seems to be the only outlet I have. Right now I am very lost.

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coping with life
by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. I feel before you make any drastic move to another area you should first work on the inner you. You are right when you say you could move to another area and still not be happy, because your problem lies within you not around you.

Happiness comes from within. It may be caused by what is happening around you, but it is a feeling that is inside, and unless you can feel inner joy and secure in yourself I think you may still have problems no matter where you are.

When you have volunteered with the programs in your community, have you got back to them when you haven't heard? It may me a good idea to try and contact them again, show them how keen you are!

Is there a Life Coach in the area you live? They are really good as they help you get on your feet and work on how you cope in your every day life and give you tools to enable you to become a more confident person. They work on 'you' and I feel this is what you need at this time.

I have just Googled 'life coach NJ' and there is a link offering personal life coaching for women in NJ. Take a look, there is quite a lot of information on the page that came up for me.

Good luck, I hope I have helped you in some small way.

Love
Kay

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