My low self esteem is causing me problems at work
(San Francisco, CA, USA)
I find that I get blamed for things I did not do wrong and I almost never get credit for things that I do right. I expect that if I work hard and do a good job people will treat me nicely. But it doesn't seem to work that way.
I see people who are lazy or less skilled getting further ahead at my job because they have the skill of being able to brag about themselves. A woman who is less educated and less talented than I am has been made a supervisor and is making everyone in the office miserable. She brags and has a huge ego. But I have been partially laid off and my position made part-time because I do not know how to toot my own horn.
How can I get self esteem and learn to toot my own horn without becoming a bore and a braggart? In my family we were taught to be humble and told "Who do you think you are?" whenever we asked to buy or do anything but the bare minimum in life. This has greatly impacted my ability to function in our American culture, where bragging and boasting seem to be highly rewarded.