No Friends..

by Tara
(Michigan)

I'm going to be twenty at the end of February, and it's safe to say that I don't have a single friend outside of my family and boyfriend. I'm okay with that for the most part, because in the past two years I have lost everyone that was ever close to me. So I kinda decided I didn't want anything to do with people anymore. But, sometimes it'd be nice to have a girlfriend to talk to and go do stuff with, instead of being stuck inside my cramped apartment all the time.


I have depression and some big anxiety issues, but everyday I try very hard to work through them. I keep distance away from people because a lot of people my age can't really understand what depression and anxiety is like. A lot of the time I just feel extremely lonely and upset. Especially when I see people I used to hang out with still talk to others that I used to hang out with. It all just really hurts.

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No friends
by: Anonymous

It is a case of taking one step at a time. You have to take a look at why you feel so friendless. There is an art in social interaction, it has to be learnt and it is not easy to take the first steps.

I have been rebuffed in the past, and it does hurt when people turn away from you and make you feel that they are not interested in you. They do not realise just how much rejection can hurt and make other people feel worthless.

What are your interests? Or what would you like to become interested in. Make a list of what you would like to do.
Being a good listener is a good start. You may find other people like yourself who also need to start somewhere.

Something has happened to you in the past to make you unsure of other people can you find out what it was, that might be a big start.

No friends
by: Kay

I feel making friends could help you feel much happier within yourself. However, friendship has to be given before it can be received, so I suggest that you maybe join a club so that this will enable you to meet others.

What do you enjoy doing? Is there a place where you can go to meet others who also enjoy the same as you? Perhaps dancing, join a gym, a walking or running club? Unless you make the effort you wont find friends.

As daunting as it is decide to give it a go. You will feel happier once you have made the effort.

Good luck,
Love
Kay
x

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