I am a 21 year old female. I used to be in a relationship with a girl who used to put me down a lot to the point that I became very vulnerable to anything she would say and I sort of lost myself because I wanted her to like me the way I liked her. I dated her for four years and we broke up.
Now I'm trying something new. I'm dating a man and recently had a baby by him. My whole view in life has changed now that I have my daughter. I want to go back to having a personality and get out of the habit of being so defensive to everything that people say it's ruining my relationship with my baby's father.
I blame it on my past relationship because before that I used to be confident and happy with myself. I was able to make other people laugh. Now its got to the point that I cant even pronounce words right because I feel like people will make fun of the way I talk.
I'm constantly worried about what others think of me. I know I'm pretty, I can dress, I have real pretty hair, but I need a personality and I need to know how to stop caring about what other people think. I don't want to transmit that to my daughter. I'm getting real frustrated. Please help me.