depression, low self esteem, no motivation

depression, low self esteem, no motivation

I am 30 years old and I can't keep a job. I suffer from a lack of self confidence, very low self esteem and no motivation to follow my dreams.
I thought I might suffer from depression so I went and spoke with some therapist who asked me try the anti-depressant lexapro. This really made me feel uncomfortable and not my self. As a result of the medication my pupils were dilated, I was grinding my teeth, basically I felt like I was on drugs. So I went back to the therapist (tried a few different ones) and they thought I might be bi-polar and asked me to try another prescription medicine (forgot the name). This one was not a anti-depressant but a "mood stabilizer". It is supposed to keep me balanced from having major highs and major lows. So far this is my third week on the medication and I feel worse than I did when I started.

I am beginning to think that I do not suffer from a problem that requires medication but from very low confidence in my self and my abilities and no self esteem what so ever which is affecting my motivation and social life not only with friends but with my family.

I seriously need help because I don't have any answers and am not sure what to do. My lack of motivation is getting me deeper into depression and I am scared that one day it will get so bad that I will end up hurting my self. I am not sure what this website is about but there is my story and I hope someone is able to provide me with some insight on what I am going through.

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depression ,low self esteem,no motivation
by: Elizabeth

Been there, done that, I know how it feels but somewhere inside of you, there are all the possibilities that you were born with.

It is so easy to be conditioned by circumstances from even your birth, and with the people who you were brought up with. It is easy to be discouraged and put down and feel that you are useless. You do not have accept your family's evaluation of you. They cannot always know what you could be capable of.

You do not have to take any notice of comments made by teachers who have never bothered to really get to the bottom of something you could not master, and maybe you have never spoken up when you could have.

You have got to see that you can overcome these feelings, it is not easy but you have to do one little thing at a time that you found hard to do and then carry on to do other things and prove to yourself that you have all the power in the world.

Concentrate on what you are good at, maybe you are interested in gardening, maybe you are good at housework, maybe you are a capable sewer. You may be better working on your own at some project.

We are far more capable than we think we are, and with encouragement we can do marvels. I found that when I worked with people I felt comfortable with I actually did quite well, but I went off beam when I was confronted with difficulties from people who really wanted to put me down.

Depression is a difficult question again, it is the case of getting the right help, and medication does not really help as it only often deadens the
pain that you are feeling.

It is a case of getting the help that suits you
and gives you power in your own healing.

A friend who was going through a stressful time which was affecting her family situation, felt at odds with all her children over a difficult family matter and was also worried over a health condition which she had to deal with.

She knew that counselling would not help in her case, she actually went to a hypnotherapist with whom she did four sessions, and it helped her to not only feel better, but to get through having some teeth out, and also a legal matter. It is a suggestion;
Elizabeth.

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Been there, done that, I know how it feels but somewhere inside of you, there are all the possibilities that you were born with. It is so easy to be conditioned by circumstances from even your birth, and with the people who you were brought up with. It is easy to be discouraged and put down and feel that you are useless. You do not have accept your family's evaluation of you. They cannot always know what you could be capable of. You do not have to take any notice of comments made by teachers who have never bothered to really get to the bottom of something you could not master, and maybe you have never spoken up when you could have. You have got to see that you can overcome these feelings, it is not easy but you have to do one little thing at a time that you found hard to do and then carry on to do other things and prove to yourself that you have all the power in the world. Concentrate on what you are good at, maybe you are interested in gardening, maybe you are good at housework, maybe you are a capable sewer. You may be better working on your own at some project. We are far more capable than we think we are, and with encouragement we can do marvels. I found that when I worked with people I felt comfortable with I actually did quite well, but I went off beam when I was confronted with difficulties from people who really wanted to put me down. Depression is a difficult question again, it is the case of getting the right help, and medication does not really help as it only often deadens the pain that you are feeling. It is a case of getting the help that suits you and gives you power in your own healing. A friend who was going through a stressful time which was affecting her family situation, felt at odds with all her children over a difficult family matter and was also worried over a health condition which she had to deal with. She knew that counselling would not help in her case, she actually went to a hypnotherapist with whom she did four sessions, and it helped her to not only feel better, but to get through having some teeth out, and also a legal matter. It is a suggestion; Elizabeth.

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depression ,low self esteem,no motivation
by: Stacey.

What a very hard time it sounds like you are going through at the moment, but I honestly think you have made the right positive steps to helping sort out this period of your life.

Firstly well done for coming to the realisation that medication is not the answer to how you are feeling at this moment in time.

The way in which we think most definitely makes our reality and I agree one hundred percent with all that Kay has written to you.

Sometimes it feels easier said than done but do not rush, you CAN and WILL move forward one day at a time, get some good strong affirmations on board and repeat them, even write some down, stick them everywhere, on your pc, fridge, tv, radio, bathroom mirror, car speedo etc, and say them out loud when you can or quietly to yourself if others are around, and soon you will find you will be feeling better!

Don't give up, you have the power to do this positive thinking and steps moving forward to feeling the new you.

I hope that I have maybe helped you in some way, and that you start looking on the positives more.
Have a think, I bet you can find at least one if you think hard.

All the very best,
Love and Rainbows
Stacey

depression,low self esteem,no motivation
by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth with your problem.

This website is about helping people to understand how special they are, that each of us has a power within that can be brought into force to help when needed.

Can you firstly realize that you believe you know what your problems are? This in itself is a good start to improving your life.

Do you spend time focusing on what is wrong with you, on what you can't do, the fact that you can't get motivated, can't get a job?

Continuously feeding this information into your mind has made you believe this is how you are. The more you think about what is wrong, the deeper those thoughts are embedded inside your mind. Can you see this is so?

I know lack of motivation is a dreadful feeling, and that you feel very low at the moment with no energy to motivate yourself, but if you can try very hard to replace in your mind what you can't do, with what you are able to, and stay determined to focus on positive information about yourself, this will eventually replace the negative things you now believe.

You have to change what you believe about yourself. Change your self talk, this is a vital step towards your motivating yourself. When you continuously put yourself down and say you can't do things, this becomes your reality. If you can tell yourself how confident you are (even when you don't feel it, this will become your reality.)

Can you find positive words to say often to yourself? Such as "I believe in myself" "I am confident" "I have faith in my ability" "I can do anything I put my mind to" When your self talk is positive and you refuse to tell yourself negative information you will begin to feel that you are on the road to recovery.

Make your self talk positive always. Repeat positive words to yourself over and over until you begin to accept them as true

You can literally change your thoughts and this will change your life. Of course this is easy to say, but harder to do.

If you truly want to change how you are it is possible. You will have to stay determined and focused on your self improvement.

There is a power within each of us, and in you, that is there to be drawn on, reach inside, bring it up and focus on how amazing and worthwhile you are, know that this is so, you are important, you have forgotten this somewhere along the way.

Focus on all things positive, and you will discover the wonderful human being that you are.

Don't give up on yourself, ever, know within your heart that you can do it.

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Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth with your problem. This website is about helping people to understand how special they are, that each of us has a power within that can be brought into force to help when needed. Can you firstly realize that you believe you know what your problems are? This in itself is a good start to improving your life. Do you spend time focusing on what is wrong with you, on what you can't do, the fact that you can't get motivated, can't get a job? Continuously feeding this information into your mind has made you believe this is how you are. The more you think about what is wrong, the deeper those thoughts are embedded inside your mind. Can you see this is so? I know lack of motivation is a dreadful feeling, and that you feel very low at the moment with no energy to motivate yourself, but if you can try very hard to replace in your mind what you can't do, with what you are able to, and stay determined to focus on positive information about yourself, this will eventually replace the negative things you now believe. You have to change what you believe about yourself. Change your self talk, this is a vital step towards your motivating yourself. When you continuously put yourself down and say you can't do things, this becomes your reality. If you can tell yourself how confident you are (even when you don't feel it, this will become your reality.) Can you find positive words to say often to yourself? Such as "I believe in myself" "I am confident" "I have faith in my ability" "I can do anything I put my mind to" When your self talk is positive and you refuse to tell yourself negative information you will begin to feel that you are on the road to recovery. Make your self talk positive always. Repeat positive words to yourself over and over until you begin to accept them as true You can literally change your thoughts and this will change your life. Of course this is easy to say, but harder to do. If you truly want to change how you are it is possible. You will have to stay determined and focused on your self improvement. There is a power within each of us, and in you, that is there to be drawn on, reach inside, bring it up and focus on how amazing and worthwhile you are, know that this is so, you are important, you have forgotten this somewhere along the way. Focus on all things positive, and you will discover the wonderful human being that you are. Don't give up on yourself, ever, know within your heart that you can do it.

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