Controlling Husband

by Nadina
(OK)

Left husband and filed for a divorce recently after 5 years into the marriage. He has been very controlling from all the money that I make and not allowing me to have a debit card. All my income goes to his account which is only registered to his name and he has full control. When I have asked him to add my name to his account so that I can have my own card he refuses and to avoid conflict I end the discussion.

I have been left on the side of the road because he forgot to fill up my tank with gas and I had no money to put gas in my car as he controls it all. He is controlling in every way, does not like affection. He only cares about materialism and has very low self esteem he wants to proove to the world that he is worthy of having the best, however makes me feel unworthy and rejects me.

I have lost myself and finally have become an independent woman and happy to be on my own. I know I made the right choice. He is now telling me he is a changed man and that I should go back to him. I have been rejected for so long that I don't believe a word he tells me. The divorce will be final next month.

He tells me that God does not want us to get a divorce and that we should try harder to make the marriage work and that if he knew I would end up wanting a divorce he would have changed and become a humble man.