negative thoughts

by kay

I admit that I have low self esteem and negative thoughts, I have accomplished a lot in my life time but cant seem to get past the negative, heart breaks and life's little bumps.

I am much to jealous of my spouse which causes problems, I don't like to be around a lot of people because It makes me nervous.

My mother is a very negative person always assuming the worst of everything. Although I love my mother very much she depresses me which in turn makes me feel guilty because I don't want to be around her.

I don't like being a jealous person, so I know that I have to overcome this self esteem problem. I'm really a good person but I cant seem to make myself believe it. For some reason dwelling on all of the negative things in my life is the norm for me but I would like for this to change. I really need a boost.

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Negative thinking
by: Kay (NZ)

Hello Kay,
Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth.

From reading your letter I can tell that you do know what your problem is, but can't seem to work your way through it.

Can you see though that you focus on being negative rather than being positive?

Many of us long to change how we are, want to be as positive as someone we may know and admire, but all we do is focus on why we aren't like them, and keep re affirming that we never will be as good because - and then we drag up all the reasons why we can't be the way we want - perhaps we are shy, feel unworthy, blush, have no confidence, and of course the more we list what's wrong with us, the more we become this way. So it's never ending, because we focus on our faults.

Your subconscious will believe whatever you tell it Kay. You have told it so often about all your negative faults, and about your low self esteem that it accepts as true.

The subconscious cannot tell a lie from the truth, and accepts what it has been told, even when it's something you don't want to be like! How about changing your self talk and re programing your subconscious?

This is where you have to become determined to change your self talk. Start telling yourself good positive stuff. Don't let another negative thought into your mind, or if it does, get rid of it instantly and replace it with a positive one.

This isn't going to be an overnight fix, so don't give up after a couple of weeks when you think it might not be working. Stay strong and determined to change how you see yourself. Only you can do this, and you have to really want this change, and then start feeding your subconscious this new information.

Choose some good affirmations that suit how you want to be, I am confident, I am strong, I am capable, whatever way you want to be.

Visualize yourself in your mind as already being this way. Visualizing is amazing, and reinforces everything you are saying to yourself. Write down your affirmations each day, this too reinforces the information into your subconscious.

Have you read the book The Secret by Rhonda Byrne?
This book is amazing and will help you to change if you let it. I recommend it to you, maybe you can get it from the library to read?

I wish you good luck, I know its not easy, but I also know that when you believe you can change, you are right, you can!

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