fear

I have developed fears, different types of fears I think.


I was a very confident, energetic and sporty kid up until the age of 14, then my family and I had to move to another city where I faced a lot of financial problems. and I lost most of my confidence, I became afraid of public speaking.

We eventually moved back to my hometown and I started feeling better but still low on confidence but that got better with time.

As I grew older I started facing more and more family problems and my parents split up. We were low on finances but I never let it get to me, after a year I started getting sick, stomach problems.

Last year I had to move to another city. Again I got sick once at my friend's house vomiting and all, since then I started fearing nausea and vomiting. In this new city I've been sick most of the time, stomach problems, I fear going out of the house because I might fall sick, I don't eat out anymore and am very cautious with what I eat because I'm afraid to fall sick.

I have been out of college for a year and spend most of my time at home since I am scared of falling sick outside at a restaurant or someones house. At home I'm mostly alright.

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fear of driving on the freeway
by: Anonymous

I have developed this fear of driving on the freeway. It started one night as I was driving home from a very hectic day. Thoughts and worries were running in my head about finances relationships. I remember lots of anger and resentment that night, and then as a truck swerved toward me I started to feel this panicky feeling that I am about to lose control of my vehicle. This feeling became more intense since I had my five year old daughter in the car and the thought that she may get hurt made my anxiety even greater.

I don't know why but I kept on driving instead of pulling over. This took about 15 to 20 minutes until I came to my exit, and during all this time I experienced this absolute terror. Ever since that day this fear of freeway driving has stayed with me, and I don't know how to get rid of it. This situation has made me dread going places that require freeway driving. Any thought or suggestions.

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What you focus upon becomes your reality. You generate your fear of driving each time you have to drive on the freeway, and now you believe it, and so the fear is with you. You have to stop with the negative thoughts, when they come, override them in your mind tell yourself "I can do this". You have to realise that it's all in your mind! When you drive safely you will be OK. Don't let the fearful thoughts become your mindset they will only get worse as time passes. Change your mindset "I am a good driver, I can do this" Stay with the strong positive thoughts and in time you should regain your confidence behind the wheel.

Good luck.
Love
Kay
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fear
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I have fear about many things, like riding two wheeler that may be in an accident and I get killed. Talking to someone and say something wrong and they get angry with me and fight me.

Sometimes I get angry with someone and want to fight them but I'm scared that if I fight with them, they will attack me when I'm alone by gathering their supporters. Really I'm very unhappy by thinking these kind of things.

So please tell me a solution which may change me and make me very brave among others.
fearful thoughts
by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth.
After reading your problem I can see that you are actually causing your fear by focusing on what might happen. Can you see this is the case?

Fear is literally a thought that you have. It is not something that you can touch, but it is very, very strong because it is what you can't stop worrying about. The more you have fearful thoughts the more they grow, often out of proportion because you let them rule your life and how you live it.

I am wondering whether you have visited the doctor with regard to your stomach pain? Worry can cause stomach ulcers. Like you, I was a worrier in my teens. I carried a paper bag with me in case I wanted to be sick, so I can relate to what you are saying.

When I was in my twenties I visited a specialist and an x-ray was done and it was found that I had a peptic ulcer in the lining of my stomach. Peptic ulcers are often caused by worrying, and I am wondering whether you too may be suffering with one. This might be something you can have checked out?

I also feel from reading your message that within you there is a strong confident person who has got a bit lost underneath the fears you have.

I hope you can start to work on your self talk and stop having thoughts that you might fall sick, and replace them with thoughts about how confident and capable you are.

When you change your thoughts you change the way you are. In case there is a medical condition causing your stomach problems I recommend that you have a chat with your doctor, and when you get help with this, coupled with your positive self talk you will be invincible!

I wish you a fear free life filled with positive thoughts.

Love,
Kay

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