I've lost all hope in life

by J
(NC)




I'm a 48 year old male who was once at the top in business..alcohol and drugs have ruined my life along with the economy...I'm broke and lost...I need advice on going on...I'm on the edge and am in legal problems, relationship issues, health problems and don't know what to do....please help me!

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Abandoned at 8 months pregnant
by: Anonymous

I can't even begin to describe my situation. All I have left is hope in God. I have been married approximately one year, currently 8 months high risk pregnant and husband has filed for divorce due to a minor conflict with my older son.

He wants my son, mum and myself thrown out of a house we both own and bought together. Now is a very depressing situation and all I ask God is to bless me one more time and give me a new beginning. I am torn, bitter, heart broken and tormented however in God will I trust. He is all that I have and all that I need.

try this
by: Anonymous

Starting this year off I had to have surgery that almost killed me. Finally got out of the hospital then wrecked my car, then a week my house burns down, luckily we all made it out and despite losing everything we continued on.

What could have been saved from the fire someone thoughtd it would be funny to rob everything left. Then my car catches fire. My daughter husband and I become homeless for the first time ever.

Finally get stable enough to gain employment to lose employment with bills stacking up. My daughter wont have a christmas. Already passed her birthday with nothing. Me and my husbands relationship is failing.

I've lost everything. Yet so many say believe. How can you after all this. I dont know how much longer I can do this.

Don't know how to start my life back
by: Anonymous

I just resigned from work and now I feel so lost because I worked hard for my job I just resigned for the unfair treatment of the management. Now I don't know how could I start again I feel so lost I gave my all in my job and they treat me like a trash.

I don't know how to start all over again please pray for me.

Lost too
by: Anonymous

I'm like everyone else on this thread. I went to college, worked hard all my life, had a good paying job and lost it thru downsizing. Today I'm lost, I don't know what else to do to get out of this jam. I have a part time minimum wage job except the salary barely pays for my groceries. I'm two months behind in my mortgage payments.


I'm embarrassed and feel humiliated because I no longer have control over my life. This is not me, I have always been on top of everything. I feel like the biggest loser of all time. Few weeks a go, I almost went to the soup kitchen to ask for food, yes things are that bad. I couldn't go because I was afraid someone from my past might recognize me there. Like a fool I went to bed hungry instead. To make matters worse, I keep getting reoccurring dreams that I'm gonna receive a large sum of money. I have had these dreams frequently for the last three years and no money in sight. Usually when get these type of dreams, within 24 hours, I get money from some unexpected source but not this time. Go figure

I'm very close tosing hope
by: Anonymous

I'm 36 and still don't have a job and I am still living at home with my father.I live in a apartment that I hate and my crazy stoner pothead upstairs neighbor threatens to kill me every day with a lighter like he wants to burn me. No one believes me management dosen't help and I am afraid to go to the police because this kid will go after me.I don't have a college degree so I can't get a decent job so that I finally move out.I have all kinds of money problems and things aren't really looking up for me at all.

I am trying to keep the so called faith but it is very hard.I need to get a job possibly a degree and a man but I'm not having any luck in these areas.I just hope that things will eventually look up for me but I doubt it.Sorry for the long post and the typoes(due to a nasty cold)but so far I am not having a good 2013 at all.

I really need all of the good vibes and prayers that I can possibly get.Things just aren't looking up at all for me no matter how hard I try.

the pain of losing hope
by: Anonymous

Even in my darkest days, I was always able to see the brightness. But now, I can not. I have had my share of true pain in this life of mine. Nothing however has been more painful than losing my hope and faith. I fought so hard against the darkness, but it won. I miss my smile, I miss my laughter, I miss what used to be me. The darkness won, my hope is dead, I have never known this much pain.

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You haven't lost your hope and faith, you've buried it deep within you. Sit quietly whenever you can, reach down for it, bring it back to the light. You can do it, trust in yourself again.

Love
Kay
x

Hope
by: Anonymous

Hey start with whats controlling your life: the alcohol- get somone to help you with those addictions, join a support group, find a place you can call home where you know no one will judge you but everyone will encourage you. I believe that at the root of a lot of problems is a need for acceptance - I go to church and I have a great family there, even though sometimes I fight with God because I don't understand him, I have that family and they help me through a lot.

A lot of the stuff you will have to do is hard and you already know the answers, come up with a step plan to pay your bills and get out of debt, deal with the issue in the relationship head on, talk about it and if you are serious about these relationships then you will be willing to work for them. A lot of things in life take hard work, I would say finding Jesus and seeking God made things better for me, but its not the easiest road, because you are not exempt from the trials of the world, but you have God who is willing to be with you and to hold your hand and help you get through anything. My answer is a bit jumbled but I hope you find truth in these word, much love!

JESUS IS OUR WAY OUT
by: Anonymous

All my life I have worked hard to build a career for me and my future children but this is now gone. Five years ago I accepted a police caution without understanding what I was signing myself into. I now realised that I’ve signed a future without unemployment and being branded criminal for the rest of my life. For a moment I believed that my life was over as I am being refused jobs all over though I am a well educated individual. But JESUS has given me hope and in him I will put my trust. With JESUS there is always a way out. He makes a way where there seems to be no way. The bible says that all things work together for the good of those that love God. Those that are called according to His purpose Rom 8:28. Ephesians 3:20 says that God is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us.

So Please people place your hope in JESUS and He will comfort you in your times of need. Don’t give up cause even God didn’t give up on you by giving His Son to die on the cross for us and made Him to rise on the third day for us.

Therefore we are not alone and whatever you are going through JESUS went through when he carried the cross and died on the cross for our sins. He is our way out so fix your eyes upon Him like babies fix his eyes upon his parents to meet their needs. As longer I have JESUS I refuse to give up and be defeated by life issues. What about you?

Egoless
by: Anonymous

I've lost everything also, but what killed my hope was being beaten unconscious handcuffed then charged with police assault. I don't know if my words will help, but there is no God, only Government. The ethics Momma raised you on, no longer apply. Don't put faith in anything, do whatever you want and whatever makes you happy as long as it doesn't hurt another person.

A wise old woman once gave me some good advice, I thought she was a lowlife nut job, but she was right, her advice...F**k it. Now after a decade of apathy like you have now I...F**k it, and am f**k'in it real good. It's only 11:30 here and I have already cursed out a phone marketer, called the local police out and have cracked a cold one.
Don't live a rigid life like I'm sure have, as have I, no one follows the old rules, adapt, the Government leads by example, live by that example.

go to the mosque near you
by: hasan

i hope you will try to go to the mosque near you and talk to an imam or leader there

Willpower NEW
by: Daniel

I have read your sorrows. I have experienced my own. Like some, I currently have no job and am experiencing serious financial difficulties.

Like others, I come from a tormented past of family problems, failures and heartbreak and mocking and misery. Depression courses through my brain, anger enflames my blood. I have come to understand that the only fairness in life is that life is unfair to everyone in various ways.

Let Courage become your armor against the shadows of despair. Only the truly brave ever come to exist on this planet of turmoil.

Let Persistence become your weapon against what seems to be a lost cause. An indomitable will is the only weapon we ever truly possess against impossible odds. Learn to turn defeat into victory. Your perception determines what that victory is.

Let Compassion be your compass. Keep it for yourself and express it to other beings, be it a plant, a pet, or another person. If someone wrongs you, forgive them, not for them, but for yourself. Negative energy will only weigh you down if you let it. Learn to let go. It is a lesson we all must learn, sometimes time and time again.

We all create our own reality. We all have the power within ourselves to affect our environment. This world will lie to you, cast illusions in various forms to mislead you from your true self. Know who you are and who you wish to be.

If you are tricked, by the words and actions of others or from the dark recesses of your own mind, then learn and allow yourself to grow.

It will be hard. You will struggle. You will suffer. This life, in this world, is a ceaseless struggle for change, for evolution of self. It is built within the very foundation of this world. Yet you must never stop changing. Never stop growing. Never stop evolving toward your highest aspect of self.

Believe in yourself and become who you are meant to be.

hope was all I had!
by: Anonymous

Out of work, lost car. lost place, no one will hire, no money to start up anything either, no family near by and live with an ex of whom I am not sure if we'll ever be anything more, and everything I've prayed for and done or tried to do nothing has changed, not even a little bit. Where is the man upstairs, I believe he has forgotten me!

GOD love you
by: Anonymous

God loves you you. Have hope in your life. Dont depend on yourself depend on god never get discourage when the things went in your life. Never give up hope at any cost.

Stop fooling yourself
by: Anonymous

When you spend your life for someone elses happiness, it can be an empty place at the end. Have the courage to live your own life. It may suck- it may be hard- it may be ordinary- it might be terrific.. But it will be yours. Don't waste your time living someone elses life. I will strive to make this so. Hope can be a cruel thing.

Hi......I'm completely f**ked
by: Anonymous

I recently lost my job, lost my wife, lost my house, lost my health, lost my family, lost my sanity. Now I live in a shed. I am the BIGGEST LOSER IN THE HISTORY OF THE WORLD !!!!

But guess what! I just inherited the kingdom of heaven and no man on earth can take that away from me.

- Last Laugh

Dpressed and life not worth living
by: Anonymous

I have lost all hope in life and feeling God has let me down several times. I truly wonder if he ever listens to people. I am a Cpa, CMA and haven't been able to find a job and if I do then it is snatched away from me without any reason.

I don't even have any will or desire to live but living because I don't have the courage to take my own life. I have a husband and 2 kids whom I love more than anything in the world.

I worked in the medical centers and I thought I had found the purpose in my life to help people but now I can't seem to find anything. Does God really exist for all or only for people who are happy?

Believe in Yourself
by: Anonymous

I hope this brings some comfort somehow.

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there. To serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become.

You never know who these people may be but when you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way. And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, will power or heart.

Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. Safe and comfortable but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet affect your life. The successes and downfalls that you experience can create who you are, and the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones.


If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart.

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and to open your heart and eyes to little things. Make every day count.

Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again.

Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high.

Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you. Create your own life and then go out and live it.


"If you take your eyes off your goals, all you see are obstacles."

Depressing place lol
by: Anonymous

Oh wow this place is really depressing and I thought I was depressing lol....I don't know I'm a depressed person with barely a little hand of hope but I still got my sense of humor right?

hope is just a time passer
by: Anonymous

I've tried at life for what?Iit kicks you when you're down, it kicks you when your up, I've lost all interest in life and have had enough.

"I don't trust happiness and I never will"
by: Anonymous

I am part of the hopeless army. At least that is something we can all share. Our fate in life is utter despair at the end of every road. How cruel and deceiving life can be. We are fooled by the illusion of life, that happiness is just around the corner and perhaps it will stay for awhile.

What do you do when you feel trapped and hopeless. I am a father of four girls. All with emotional problems of some sort. My oldest has aspergers syndrome and life for her has been nothing but lonely despair. We have tried everything!!! She has been in multiple schools in her brief life. She has been in counseling and is on medication. It is such a cruel thing to watch your child be so lonely. She is very intelligent and has no problems academically. Yet the thing she desires most is friends.

Aspergers is a form of autism. She has problems with her emotions and often misreads others. This has lead to constant teasing and harassment. She is an easy target for rotten girls. They have tormented her so often and she has no self confidence. We joined a new church within the past year and she made friends there. But like the fool that I am I thought it would last. Once again she is at odds with other girls and finds herself isolated and alone. She is depressed and hurting. This is a pattern that has repeated over and over. Whatever you think of we have tried.

My next daughter is 13. She has always been a very sweet and wonderful kid. She is a good student with lots of friends. However she has Anorexia. Just when you think the despair of life has hit its peak more pain and suffering comes around. We are dealing with a terrible evil demon. This is the worst! Our lives are absolute hell. I hate to open my eyes and face another day. We are all she has in this lousy stinking world. The struggle to make her eat overwhelms us. Every meal every day is a battle. We can not relax or let our guard down. The demon whispers in her ear and tells her she is fat, to not eat, to hide food and to exercise. This sick f**king society we live in supports the demons message. Everywhere you turn we are told "fat is bad, lose weight now, thin is good". Kids don't stand a chance! We are destroying ourselves from within. We have fought this battle for almost 4 months now and I have no illusions that it will end soon.

I feel depressed even writing this. I have looked for help in every direction. I have pleaded in endless prayer for deliverance. I have dealt with so much misery in this life already. Alcohol, drugs and depression have torn apart my family growing up. My dad was a career alcoholic and made our lives miserable. We were a completely dysfunctional family.

I don't care about myself or the pains that I have endured. It is my kids I care most about. I am used to pain and disappointment. Life has kicked me in the nuts so many times already.

HOPE WAS ALL I HAD LEFT
by: Anonymous

I feel I am beginning to lose all hope. I lost my job a few years ago, because I could. Not because of anything that I did but only because my supervisor did not like what I had to say when she asked me to tell her the truth. I lost my home, my car, everything and ended up living in a motel, later I even lost my son.

I am now living with my mother. She never cared much for me and we barely even speak to one another living in the same household. I can't find a stable job here. I can't get my own place. I feel trapped and alone and I am getting very tired of it all.

Hope is all that I had left and now I am losing it.

wtf???
by: Anonymous

....that little boy in the back seat of a Plymouth on a cold south Dakota morning so long ago. sitting there , thumbing through a "creepy" comic book and day dreaming out the window. the morning sun splashed across the frozen landscape, as the boy wonders ... "Where will life take me?"
looking back.......i should have stayed there. life has not been kind and I'm sure death will be even more so.
Forgive me not for what I've done, but for what I'll do.


age:39
sex:m

IM FOREVER LOST
by: josh hanke

Schizophrenic, had a traumatic sexual abuse thing happen, another traumatic experience, a thought insertion of the possibility I could have a sexual thought about children, ruined my life, finally confessed it to my psychologist but it was too late, the guilt had consumed me, now its the only thing in the back of my head, thinking subconsciously people will figure me out. I live in constant anxiety, no real emotion any more, no taking a step back and breathing, my life is over before it began.

me..
by: Anonymous

Till class 8th I was single but suddenly in 8th class some feelings started to raise about a girl. But I don't dare to tell her that I love her, she is the only one who unlocked my heart, but time went on .... her father got transferred to another station. she is going too. What should I do??

Don't know where to go
by: Anonymous

I am 20yrs old. I was a very bright student of my school. I was good in academics as well as other curricular activities. Everyone started to praise me.

Then I started taking life very lightly and then slowly I lost everything, academic record, friends, etc. Now I am left with nothing and struggling for just to pass.

I don't know where to start from again. All my ideas are failing.

A new beginning
by: Anonymous

Hello, I am a 41 year old female who's dedicated her life to helping anybody and everybody that I can. I've worked with children of all ages, I've worked in the school system and library system over 20 plus years. Right now, I'm laid off I've applied for so many jobs like many other people out here. To find myself with not one lead, it's very frustrating and you start to lose all hope.

I've always been a spiritual person and I still am. But lately, I find myself losing hope and direction about my life. I have two kids and a husband that I truly love. But, I feel myself spiraling down fast. I've always been a person to bounce back and keep going but now I just don't know anymore. I pray and ask God to show me what to do and show me some direction. Show me what I need to do?

My dream is to open a shelter for homeless people or start a center for under privlidged youth who do not have anywhere to go after school or who need to be doing positive things. Something to make them feel that they are worthy. But, how do I achieve this ? I know to pray and ask God for direction. How do I go about applying for government grants, etc? Because I've tried that but I think I'm not going to the right websites. If you have any suggestions out there please let me know.

Yours truly,

Lyn

I've Hit Bottom
by: Anonymous

Hello...I have never been out here like this. I mean on the internet writing comments. I guess you could call it desperation, but I feel so rejected and forsaken that I feel like shouting it out loud.

Mine is a life gone bad, but not at my own doing. I have spent the last 35yrs (I'm 40)striving to be the best I can be...attempted to play the game of life just as I was raised to...went to college, earned a degree, never dated boys, saved my self until I got married, put God first, loved hard and would do almost anything for anyone in need and yet, I sit here today in a cold and lonely home full of tragedy, rejection and a list of disappointments so long I need at least 2 notebooks to fit it all.

Frankly, I can hardly fathom bouncing back ... after 35yrs of high hopes and attempting to put forth my very best effort only to arrive at this place of blissful hopelessness, I am bleeding profusely inside and no disrespect to my heavenly father, whom I love dearly, but am completely out of fuel with no more hopes or dreams.

Lost, but not done yet!
by: Nick

As a fellow human being who's been through my own trials and tribulations, I can testify from a first-person perspective on the troubles and hardships that face us in such events and circumstances. Yes, I feel and know your pain. What's the solution?

The solution, I think, in this time is three-fold; me being a spiritual person, my foundation and roots are in God and faith (yours may be as well or in something near and dear to you as well) so I believe that the first and most important step is our own understanding and beliefs in what we have faith in and love, cherish and value the most. That, I call, our virtues and values.

The second is hope. Hope is contagious and the second-to last piece of evidence that we have as fellow humans on this earth, in this life. For as long as we have pain, we want to remove it, get rid of it, ask for help.

That brings me to the third step: communicating and asking for help, assistance. That is probably the hardest of all to achieve for many of us, me as well, but realizing that we as people, are all in the same boat, all feel the same feelings (although it may not seem or feel that way) and go through the same hardships on one level or another, means that there is no shame asking for help or venting in the truest form to someone or many.

I believe, that we are all connected and share the same senses of joy and pain, etc. Those who have felt your troubles and pain will gladly help you and listen, talk with you and share joy and life with you on any level. At least for me, when I was in this time of life, it was for the sense of being disconnected and lonely, with nobody to share that pain. But do know, you are not alone, not even for a brief moment, because even as I type this, I too, have felt what you are feeling and I feverishly pass onto you my blessings and strength for a brighter day and a fulfilling tomorrow.

Take time to rest, eat, sleep, pray and cry your heart out. Man or woman, it matters not. A soul is genderless, but a heart is a heart, nevertheless.

Just when you thought you were lonely and broken, just when you thought where your life's been; one day you'll wake and you're going to be ... living the right life! :)

I will pray for you friend!

Nick

Lost and depressed
by: Anonymous

I am NS and over the last ten years I have not been myself. Finding help from my Doctor and other practioners has not helped, I have become a binge drinker, drinking for several consecutive days trying to lift my spirits up when nothing else works.

I come from afamily that does not support sobriety. My father is a drug addict my mother is an inabler. My son was incarcerated for theft and possessing a weapon at the time of his arrest. He was accompanied by three of his cousins. He is now going on 23 years has a child of his own, and is back on the streets selling weed.

I am in a relationship with a man that is very confusing to me. He does not beat me, he works and we live in a nicely furnished home. We dont have a healthy relationship. He ignores me, we dont go out. We dont have children together. I dont have any money of my own and cant leave. For the first time in my life I feel completely lost and hopeless.

Any help out there from someone who has experienced my issues?

Thank you and God Bless

Very good
by: Anonymous

Kay - thanks

Despairing thoughts
by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. When we reach rock bottom there can be only one way to go, and this is up. How is this done? By going within. Although you may not realize it, there is inside you an amazing, worthwhile part of you that has to be found and brought back into existence.

This is not going to be an easy journey for you, and you will have to draw on all the inner resources you have let lie dormant as you went on your spiralling journey into despair.

All is not lost because you are now seeking help and this is the major hurdle gone. The rest is still up to you and how you place your thoughts.

Meditation can be a marvellous healing agency that allows you to go within. You might not like the idea of meditation, perhaps you have not done it before. However it is easy and harmless and does not cost anything. It allows you to solve problems on a different level from your normal thinking mind. It will enable you to connect with your inner being, the one that is crying out to be helped.

Sitting quietly is meditating, listening to your favourite music and just letting your mind go wherever it needs to is meditating. Listening with headphones on is also good.

You can if you want, repeat words to yourself, such as, I am worthwhile, I am strong, I love myself, as you meditate. Any positive words that you feel will help to make you how you want to be.

Once you find this lost part of you and bring him back into being a part of you again your life will start to change, because how you feel inside draws into your life the same energies. Despairing thoughts brings despair, hopeful thoughts brings hope, joyful thoughts brings joy, successful thoughts bring success.

Form the thoughts you have throughout your day to be become how you want to be. Say them as though you already are this way. You will get through this. Take one small step at a time, stay positive, determined and true to yourself, and you can, and will, improve your life.

Trust.

Love
Kay

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