Life

by Sad
(New England)

For the past 13 years I think I was living in a fantasy world. My dog and I were completely happy, full of joy, loved life, loved who I was and never understood why people were so miserable. I thanked God so often for blessing me with this incredibly happy life. Then I lost my boy and with that my love, my joy, my life.


I'm single and always considered my dog my love; my best friend. Every day was a great one. Now I do nothing but work and sleep. Life is ugly to me now. I have no hope in my life. My family wasn't there for me or friends. No one understands the pain of him not being here. No one will let me talk about him. What a pathetic existence I have now. I miss him terribly and our life together and no one understands.

I don't talk to my neighbors anymore and I'm losing friends one by one - I just feel like no one cares about me. I am SO unloved and so alone in this world. I keep asking God to just take me so I can be with my boy in Heaven. I'm useless down here and bitter and can't understand what happened to me.

Losing my dog crushed me. But on top of that I'm now losing my faith and so scared about Heaven. I have to see my love again. But I also feel like God is "mad" at me; or has forgotten about me. I cry every day and every day I hope just one good thing will happen to change my miserableness and nothing does.

I tried counseling, talking to a priest. The longing and the love for my boy doesn't go away. It just never stops hurting. And I've never lived such an isolated, non-social life ever. When will this end?

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Think of the love you gave each other not the loss
by: Anonymous

Losing a beloved pet is very devastating. My kids and I have lost several over the last 7 years, including a dog, 2 cats, 4 hamsters and a guinea pig. We were attached to all of them. I still miss them everyday.

We rescued another dog shortly after our 1st one died. It's so painful to think of going through that loss again, but what helps me is thinking of how much joy and love they brought to my life and me to theirs. By giving them a loving home, you may possibly be saving them from abuse by someone else or from a life without love.
Animals are part of your family.
by: Anonymous

Losing an animal is just as devastating as losing a human member of your family, the only difference is that other people just say oh it is only an animal but they do not consider that animal has been part of your life.

When humans die there is usually a funeral and people come in and give what assistance they can, cards are sent and received. Funerals are also an occasion for family gatherings as people usually try and come when someone has died.
When it is a pet, maybe it has had to be put down which is very upsetting as a decision has to be made when the animal's life has run out.
The owner is left to grieve on their own, the only people who understand are those who have also lost a beloved animal friend.

It takes a long time to grieve and to recover from the loss and to perhaps take in another animal friend who needs a home and care.
If you have a belief that there is also life after death for your pet, it is easier to accept that they have merely crossed the rainbow bridge to where all good animals go.
If you can find someone to talk to, it will help a lot to ease your sadness.
thank you
by: Anonymous

Thank you for your words Kay.. I'm so scared to get another dog but I hear what you are saying. I've just never felt so awful. I did make him my world but he did the same for me. I am trying to reach out to humans but they just don't seem to "care" about my hurting all the time. Or understand. Or plainly rather just make judgment on it. My positive nature is gone and the lack of caring from the aftermath has just made my healing worse. I think I need to move. I think that will make the day-to-day pain loosen. I appreciate you writing.. I hate hearing how pathetic I have become.. xo

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You aren't pathetic, you are grieving the loss of a loved one. Give it time. When the hurting gets less please consider giving a home to a dog who needs your love as much as you will need his.

We have owned four dogs over our life time and each time have been gutted by the death and said no more, but time does heal and so we have tried again, and loved the dog that has come into our lives. Each dog different, but each dog loved as much as the other. So please think about giving a home to another when you are ready. You wont regret it, I am certain.
Love
Kay
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Life
by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. I don't believe you have spent the last 13 years in a fantasy world, you have been content with your lot. Your dog became your best friend, one who listened to all your cares and woes without judgment. A friend who loved you unconditionally no matter what your mood. Of course you are devastated by his loss, twofold because you devoted your life totally to him.

I understand no one or another dog can ever replace him or that special bond, but I would suggest that you could have a special bond with another dog if you choose to. When our Cocker Spaniel died aged 12, we, too were heartbroken and my husband said, no more dogs, it's too painful when they die. However here we are a few years later with another dog, who is now aged 6 and we love as much as our Cocker Spaniel.

All dogs give unconditional love, all of them, all of the time, and if you can open your heart to another one you can at least feel that you have something to live for. If you decide to get your next bundle of love I would like to suggest that you don't make him your total world, but allow the humans to play an important part in your life as well.

You have so much love to give to your next boy (or girl!)I hope you decide to have another.

Love
Kay
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