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I feel stupid

by Dyanna
(Cleveland)

I am trying so hard to change my life, I am going back to school to get into nursing. The school work is not a problem, the problem is that in work (I just started as a nurses aide) I made a horrible mistake my first day and it could have easily been fixed had I just made a phone call.

I feel like I am not smart enough to handle any real life situations, that I cannot think outside the box or do anything on my own.

I feel so dumb most of the time, other people can do all this stuff and I can't seem to do anything right. Instead of listening to the voice inside my head telling me what I should do I do something else.

I have no confidence in myself or my abilities and really feel as if any job I attempt is going to be horrible because I am just not smart enough.

Why can I handle school work but not practical life? I am married with two children and feel like a total failure most of the time....Any help would be appreciated

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am i dumb??
by: Anonymous

It seems like I am a failure. Everytime I do something it's hard for me to understand and everyone else gets it!

I graduated from college wirh a 2.0 because I just can't get it right??? Writing papers in apa format? I can't do it, read on it and I am as lost as I was before I read it. Everything I try I fail at terribly, why??? I want to give up and just stop it altogether!!!

be positive
by: nursesoon!

We've all fallen from time to time, and I know where you're coming from. I made a few mistakes in nursing clinicals, nobody was hurt, and it really wasnt that big of a mistake, but I felt like I was in the wrong place and all I wanted to do was get out.

But then I realized that everyone makes mistakes and thats part of being human. So please dont continue beating yourself up over the small stuff. Remember dont sweat the small stuff and its ALL small stuff..

God Bless.

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by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. Everyone makes mistakes at some time or other, so you are not alone in this. Making a mistake is an opportunity to learn how to do something the right way. It is a fast way to learn, providing you listen, take on board how you should have done the job so that it doesn't happen again.

Because you make mistakes does not mean you are stupid. The only reason you believe you are stupid is because you tell yourself you are. No one is perfect. The other people you see that you feel get things right will have made mistakes in the past, as I have said, this is how we learn.

You said yourself your little voice tells you what is the right thing to do, and yet because you have told yourself so often that you can't cope because you aren't smart enough, you let this thought override your little voice, end up doubting yourself, and get things wrong.

Your sub conscious mind cannot tell the difference between a lie and the truth.

When you keep telling yourself that you are stupid, not capable, have no confidence, are a total failure, guess what? Your sub conscious is paying close attention to what it is hearing, taking it on board, and filing it away for the next time you have something to do. When you go to do it, out comes all the negative stuff that it believes to be true, because this is what it has been told.

Sit and have a think about this. I am sure you will see how negative your self talk is. Don't let that sub conscious tell you different, until it knows the correct truth!

You have work to do! Not too hard, but it will take practise. Change your self talk into an "I can do this" mode and when you have done this for a while your subconscious will get the message and turn you into the wonderful, positive, capable woman I know you have tucked away somewhere inside.

Remember, making a mistake does not mean you are stupid. I make mistakes all the time, I really do. The next time you make one, don't beat yourself up, that's a total waste of energy, just tell yourself you'll do better next time, learn from it, and move on!

Your thoughts make you what you are.

Love
Kay

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Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. Everyone makes mistakes at some time or other, so you are not alone in this. Making a mistake is an opportunity to learn how to do something the right way. It is a fast way to learn, providing you listen, take on board how you should have done the job so that it doesn't happen again. Because you make mistakes does not mean you are stupid. The only reason you believe you are stupid is because you tell yourself you are. No one is perfect. The other people you see that you feel get things right will have made mistakes in the past, as I have said, this is how we learn. You said yourself your little voice tells you what is the right thing to do, and yet because you have told yourself so often that you can't cope because you aren't smart enough, you let this thought override your little voice, end up doubting yourself, and get things wrong. Your sub conscious mind cannot tell the difference between a lie and the truth. When you keep telling yourself that you are stupid, not capable, have no confidence, are a total failure, guess what? Your sub conscious is paying close attention to what it is hearing, taking it on board, and filing it away for the next time you have something to do. When you go to do it, out comes all the negative stuff that it believes to be true, because this is what it has been told. Sit and have a think about this. I am sure you will see how negative your self talk is. Don't let that sub conscious tell you different, until it knows the correct truth! You have work to do! Not too hard, but it will take practise. Change your self talk into an "I can do this" mode and when you have done this for a while your subconscious will get the message and turn you into the wonderful, positive, capable woman I know you have tucked away somewhere inside. Remember, making a mistake does not mean you are stupid. I make mistakes all the time, I really do. The next time you make one, don't beat yourself up, that's a total waste of energy, just tell yourself you'll do better next time, learn from it, and move on! Your thoughts make you what you are. Love Kay

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