Unemployed, unmotivated, no self-esteem

by Jim
(Southern Calif, USA)

Hello all. Recently unemployed 48 year old male, husband, father of two teens. Having not much success in looking for work. The work I find is paying only half or maybe two thirds of what I was earning before. Perhaps that's just reality, or the world has passed me by and I am now a relic.

I find myself engaging in escapist activities instead of focusing on the job search because it's too depressing. I'll cruise the net for hours or play video games, anything to take my mind off the fact that I seem to be a monumental failure.

My wife works, we have our health, the layoff was profit-driven and not personal, but still, it happened to me and I'm not taking it well. I can't get going. While there's a lot of motivation, it doesn't transfer into action so I'm anxious all the time. Thanks for listening.

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no motivation
by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. Yes, times have become difficult for you, but its important at this time that you focus on what you have. Your health, your wife is employed, and most importantly you have motivation, which at the moment is being put to wrong use!

When you want things to improve, a positive attitude will carry you through every time. It's not how many times you are knocked down that counts, it's how many times you get up and carry on. A positive attitude will make you strong and enable you to focus on doing what is right for you and your family.

When you channel your energy into positive action things will start to happen. A job is a job, and though the hourly rate may not be what you are used to, every extra cent you earn will help, and you will start to feel worthwhile again.

Focus on what you want, not on what has gone wrong in your life. You get what you focus on, be it a negative or positive focus. Your own thoughts play a vital role in what happens to you now, you can sit and surf the net and get nothing but unmotivated feelings which will drag you down and make you feel useless and unhappy, or you can decide to go with positive thoughts, put all your energy into finding a job, no matter what it is and ride the storm until the economy improves.

No one can give you your thoughts, they are uniquely yours, and the thoughts that you act on become your reality. Make them positive, make your life worthwhile.

Good luck.


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