by April Phelps
(Malta, Il, 60150)

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April Smiling

Lately I cannot sleep. I am stressed out about my son being in Marine Boot Camp, about my male friend's wife because she thinks I like him that way, about my biological dad still ignoring me after 37 years, and about my mom calling me all the time.

I don't know what to do, for I also live alone, although I do take health classes at a place called the "Reality House." I also see a therapist there. It's just that lately with my son's graduation day from Marine Corps Boot Camp, I get emotionally upset over the smallest detail, and I let it consume me because I will fixate (so my mom tells me-lol) on it. I think I am thinking about thngs I feel I don't have; like my son, like my male friend's wife's trust, like my biological dad, and like boundaries with my mother.

What should I do when I am feeling overrun by it all? I take Abilify for bipolar to help with the anxiety and depression, but lately I just cannot sleep. Help! I also do not drive, so it's not like I can go out readily and meet new people. I am just feeling stuck, both in my life and in a rural town of about 1,600 people.

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by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. When we are stressed everything in life becomes a problem. Much of what stresses us is unimportant but because we feel so low we blow it all out of proportion and literally make mountains out of molehills.

I can understand your worry over your son. It seems to be a mother's lot to worry about her children. I believe we bring them up as best we can, we watch them grow from child to adult, and then, no matter how difficult it is, we have to let them go on to lead their own lives, praying that we have taught them how to cope, and above all in the hope that they are happy.

Your son, it seems to me, has grown to be a fine young man to be proud of. When you start to worry, bring in the proud thoughts you have of him and know that you have done the best you can, and that he lives his life the way he wants. Then you have to trust him to do his best.

A lot depends on the thoughts you have. Fixating on all the other problems amplifies your stress. Find something to keep you busy. Can you start a new interest to take your mind of your worries?
When you think negative thoughts you bring negative results, so think positive things.

When you wake in the morning, wake with a positive attitude and you will have a good start for a positive day. Let your first thoughts be 'Thank you for the wonderful day I am about to have'.

Give it a try!


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