older brother is hurtful

My brother is 10 years older than me. We have never really been close but I think we have both tried. He has a very dry, sarcastic sense of humor and while I do think I have a sense of humor I have never been able to respond to his jokes because I often feel that they were at my expense or negative. I don't think he means to hurt me but sometimes I have a hard time remembering that. Because I don't respond easily to his conversation and freeze up around him I think he thinks I am boring. It's as if everything I do is wrong.

He was at my wedding this last weekend and I felt like he was so negative the whole time, complaining about everything instead of trying to be helpful and positive. Every time I think about it I get tears in my eyes. There is a part of me that wants to just cut ties because I'm sick of feeling like this, but I love his wife and my nieces and nephew. And I don't want to put any strain on his relationship with my mother. She has also had issues with his personality but seems to have accepted it and moved on.

I wish I didn't care so much what he thought. I think that would make things so much better! I know I am a good person and can be fun and I wish he could see this.

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Older brother is hurtful
by: Anonymous

Typical, unfortunately one cannot choose ones family members. Is he just like that with you or is he like this with other people. At least you do not have to live with him. There is always someone in ones family who behaves like this and I wonder how his wife and children put up with it if he is like that with them.
There are always issues and some are caused by jealousy when a parent may make more of one child against another.
You may have to study some way of dealing with him in fact it might be better to walk away and ignore him when he has wisecracks at your expense. If someone else in the family also has to cope with this or workmates, maybe you can gang up against him. When you ignore someone it hurts more than if you hit back.

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