low self esteem

by mariya
(north america)

I'm average weight(5'4 1/2" and 120-130lb), light medium skin tone with light blonde hair and ocean colored eyes. I know I'm not fat but I always feel fat. I have low self esteem, although I do stand up for my self, though usually more often for friends.

I want to dress more daring, but I can not get my nerves up to wear something daring although I really want to. The few times I got my nerve up to wear something daring I had this one girl laugh at me when I walked by, same girl all those few times.

I hate how people don't even want to get to know as soon as they find out I'm Russian, don't get me wrong I have plenty of friends. I've never really been able to get along well with the other Russian girls. I just want people to accept me for who I am and I want to some how get my nerve up again so I could wear something daring.

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low self esteem
by: Kay

Low self esteem is caused by ourselves. I know, why would we choose to be like this? The problem is we focus on what is wrong and forget about our good points! From what you say you appear perfectly normal but the problem is you don't think you are. So, it is your own thoughts that cause your problem.

You believe people don't want to be friends with you because you are Russian. Is this what you think, because they don't become friends with you? Not everyone offers friendship to those they come into contact with. This doesn't necessarily mean they don't like you, you just think this is so.

Whatever you do don't let this one's girl's catty reaction to you ruin your life. I would like to bet she saw how good you looked and her nasty reaction was caused by jealousy and so the easy way was for her to laugh to make you feel horrible and lose confidence in how lovely you looked.

Everything in your life is how you feel about yourself. At the moment you don't appear to think much of yourself and this is a shame, because I am sure you are a very nice person.

Focus on your good points and please wear the clothes that make you feel good about yourself, even the daring ones if you want! The important thing is when you feel good within, nothing else matters.

Take no notice of people who try to upset you, they are not worth having in your life, and as I said often people make nasty comments because they are jealous and want to put you down. Have none of it, believe in yourself and you can go far.

Good luck,


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