low esteem

by penny

I have just started yet another job 12 weeks ago, and yet again I feel I don't belong there. It is in a doctors surgery as an HCA.

On Friday my senior sister said that she could not baby me any longer by keeping on reassuring me that the job I was doing was a good one, that I needed to decide whether the job was really for me.

All the other nurses stand around between patients talking but I dont as I don't feel I belong.

I just want to hide away in my house and never go out. This happened in my last job so I know there is something wrong with me.

As I was growing up I was always told I was silly, that I was moody, hard work to get on with.

I was bullied at school. My mum told me to ignore it. I was physically abused by my brother, and my mum told me that I was to blame because I was as bad as him.

I don't make friends easy as I feel people just put up with me, that they don't really like me, they suffer me. I even feel that way about my husband (that he puts up with me)

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low self esteem
by: Kay

Hello Penny,

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth.

I ask that you read out loud the message you wrote to me, and really listen to what you have said. There is not one positive thing you have said in connection with yourself.

What I would like you to do is rewrite your message, but turn every negative comment into a positive one, and read it out loud. As you speak watch closely how the positive comments make you feel, how you begin to feel good inside.

Your thoughts are making your reality, so all this negative stuff you write is true because this is what you believe. The way you feel about yourself is how others feel about you also. How can they love you when you don't love yourself?

Every negative thought you have results in a negative outcome. When you change your thoughts to positive ones you will begin to get positive results. It has to happen because people will see a new you, and will start to react in a positive way towards you.

Make a list of everything you think is negative about you, and then rewrite them so that they are positive things.

Write down all your good points, you must have many of them, keep a copy of these positive things and read them out loud as often as you can. Hearing them spoken is more powerful than just reading them silently.

By changing your self talk you can change the inner you which is what has to be done to bring happiness into your life.

Rewrite your message something like:

I started another job 12 weeks ago at a doctors surgery, and really fit in well.

On Friday my senior sister told me that I was doing a very good job, and she could tell how much I loved the work.

All the other nurses stand around between patients talking and I enjoy listening to what they have to say.

I love going out and never seem to be home, I am so happy I have my health and that I can go out and have fun.

As I was growing up I was always told I was good fun, and that I was easy to get along with.

I make friends easily as I feel people react well to me, and that they really like me, My husband thinks I am amazing and we are both very happy together.

Doesn't this seem better than all the negative stuff you have been thinking? This can be how you are, you just have to believe it to make it so!

Good luck, be positive!


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