I hate this life!!

by Looking
(North Dakota)

I think I am a very lovable guy!! I can't seem to find woman to stay with me. I was married the first time 13 years, the second 15 years.


I just lost a girlfriend she liked to drink, and gamble. I don't do those things. I dare not drink anymore, gambling is too boring. I guess what hurts is that she betrayed me. My two wives have also done the same.

I feel now I am not worth having around. I know I have friends, and family but this is not enough. I need female companionship.

I feel like a loser. I wish I could get out of this rut. Where I live this is all there is gambling, and alcohol. I can't leave my job here, and pursue another. I am close to retirement.

I hope there is someone out there to help me. I am afraid I will end it all soon.

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Unhappy with life
by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. Many people when reaching retirement look back on their lives, sometimes with regret, at things that have gone wrong, and this brings unhappiness at what has been missed out on, or what could have been or should have been.

The past has now gone and you have to decide what it is that you want to make happen in your future. Every thought you have that you act upon becomes what you do, and so you are choosing how your life is. No one is choosing your thoughts. This isn't possible.

You say you feel you are a loser. This thought makes you one in your eyes. Others may think you are a great person, but unless you think this too you will be the loser. Negative thinking brings negative results.

You wish you could get out of the rut you are in. Have you thought about going to a night class as an adult student? Now don't going thinking you are too old, this is not true unless you think that it is. There are many mature people who take up interests later in life.

What do you enjoy doing? Have you a dream that you have always thought wasn't possible for some reason or other? (note that if you thought this, it became true, and it was this thought stopped you going for that dream.)

Why not take up dancing (have you just thrown up your hands in horror I wonder!!) Go to the gym! Never too old for the gym! Do something that gets you out of that rut you don't want to be in.

Only your thoughts can move you in the direction you want to go. You have to go places where people are, places where you haven't gone before, where drinking and gambling doesn't play a part. That's where your next lady friend is surely going to be found.

Have good positive thoughts, and act on them! Only you can do this.

Good luck

Love
Kay

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