I hate it when my boyfriend goes out, gets drunk, and has fun with his friends.

by Daniel
(Minnesota)

I really, really, REALLY hate it when he does this. It's not even the fact that he's having fun without me. It's just that, frankly, when he gets drunk.... he gets to where he starts dancing on tables, and years ago he used to be a stripper, a fact that still bothers me. Anyway, I get worried that when I'm not there with him, he's going to forget about me and basically cheat on me.

I don't think he'd actually sleep with another guy, but I'm afraid he might get a little too friendly with people after he's had some alcohol.

I just worry all the time that he's gonna hook up with somebody when he's drunk and I'll end up with a broken heart. I really love him, we've talked at length about moving in together, even getting married someday, I just don't know how I can trust him not to cheat on me or get all "friendly" with other guys when he's out getting drunk. I love the fun party side of him, I just don't know if I can trust it after he's had a few.

I want so badly to trust him, but I get so lonely when he's gone and I text him and he won't text me back for hours, and I know he's out drinking and having fun, I can't help thinking he could end up cheating on me. I hate having these thoughts.

I miss him all the time when he's gone. Especially when he's out til 2 in the morning and comes home drunk. He swears he doesn't get frisky with anyone else when he's drunk because he loves me but I just don't feel like I can completely trust him, but I want to soooo bad. I wanna trust him. I wanna make our relationship last. I do think I want to marry him someday, I need help opening myself up and trusting him though. Can anybody help me?

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sounds like a bad guy
by: Anonymous

Honey I had the same thing happen to me and I know others that have had it happen too and I know you don't want to hear it but it sounds like he definitely could be cheating. especially if he wont text you back for hours. Not to mention that what hes doing is just disrespectful.

I hate it when my boyfriend gets drunk.
by: Anonymous

You have to ask yourself regarding this relationship. Does he love you enough to make a change in his life? He may have a lot of growing up to do and also perhaps drop some of the friends he goes drinking with.
Going out and getting wasted is just that. It is not funny and the people who do this, put them and the company they are with at risk.
He could also have an alcoholic problem which may get worse and there is the danger to his health, excessive alcohol damages the liver and other organs.

Anyway it is up to you, have you other friends who are there for you and to whom you can turn as you do need some assistance to deal with him and with your feelings.

Counselling could also help and I think you should talk to him when he is sober and put it to him that if he carries on as he is doing without thought for the future and for you he is putting your relationship at risk. You deserve better than that.

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