I don't know what to do anymore

My mom and I never get along, she hates me because I am fat. The thing is, I am not as fat as she makes me feel like. I do sports all year round so i have a muscular body and I do have big legs, but that's just the way I was built.

I was adopted and my mom always says oh when I was 17 I didn't even weigh 100 pounds. I tell her all the time, it's not about the weight, it's about the way I look and feel. Yet she's constantly calling me fat and telling me I will never have a boyfriend because I am fat and ugly.

I can't deal with it anymore. I can't talk to any of my friends about it because I do love my mom and I wouldn't want anyone to think badly of her. what do I do?

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I don't know what to do anymore
by: Anonymous

I think sometimes whatever you do, there are some people you will never please. It is hard to take no notice of a family member as they often are more likely to do something to hurt you.

You do not have to accept what your mother says, we do not always get on with close family members.
It will be a case of doing what you do best and trying to ignore her. As you get older and you are able to move away it will not be a problem.

It is so easy to take on what someone says and it is not so easy to take it in your stride but you must remember that you are your own person and that what you do in the end matters most. There will be other family members who will help and support you when you go to them for help.


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by: Kay

Thank you for contacting Positive Personal Growth. I want to congratulate you on the attitude you have of yourself. This will carry you through the horrible things your mother says to you. She has a problem not you. I can only suggest that you let her know that you are happy the way you are and have no desire to change.

Can you ask why she feels the need to say hurtful things to you. I wonder whether she envious of what you are doing with your life because she never got to do things and now you are doing what she always wanted to. Mothers normally show pride in what their daughters do and want their happiness, and always praise them and for some reason your mother is not doing this. Talking calmly to her about this may help the situation.

The important thing is that you keep your positive attitude and continue to love how you are. No matter how hurtful the words don't take them to heart, let them go, and continue with your self love. This will see you through everything you have to come up against in your life.

Stay strong, it's how you are on the inside that counts!


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