My husband constantly Googles everything I say to him puts me on trial (I must prove everything i say to him) For instance, if I did not see the mosquito bite me, how do I know it was a mosquito?
My cat has asthma, no biggy I apparently worry too much, nothing you can do (he Googled this)
His cat came in limping, physically something wrong, he said sprain, I said no vet said shattered knee, but I am irrational there is so much more... but the point is, I am always irrational, what I say is never fact, and why do I have a self esteem issue? (I never thought I did, successful job, etc) I got sick one night, he said gerd I said doesn't feel like it, it was ovarian cyst rupture, no biggie I think because maybe my husband makes me feel incompetent?
Lets pick him apart: never picks up after himself, tells me if I want my home clean then I should clean it because he doesn't care, tells me I am irrational and he is always right (he is an expert in all things: vet, doctor, shrink, pharmacologist, you name it he knows it, Google is the be all end all)
I work full time, mostly from home, but I work- on calls most of the day involved. I do not 'work from home' like he does, it is a full time job,sometimes with travel. I make every appointment, I pay all of the bills. I am my husbands 2nd wife, she got everything, I got the debt that resulted (past taxes he owes you name it) and a house I did not want that is falling apart, that I am paying for.
He move me to the woods, I have allergies and mosquitoes love me, and that is my fault as there is NOTHING he can do about it (2 acres of 'the lawn' will maintain itself).but I am irrational? no, I am pissed.
I moved in after marriage to: calls from his name that were from his ex-wife (I did not know the number), bills for his ex-wife, past taxes from his divorce (the IRS kept all of my tax returns) yet I am the bad person? All I did was marry him and bring my belongings and cats and "i want a clean house, issue's with me, and when i say clean I mean like at least vacuumed! I make enough money to finally treat myself to a vacation, but instead I am fixing his house, the one he bought with his ex, and paying his debt and being told to live on a budget because of it.
All he can tell me is I am irrational and I have self esteem issues? I am a bad person!