I have been married for more than 10 years and have been suffering with low self confidence due to my husband's behavior.
He is very controlling and always wants it his way or the highway. Taking control runs in his family. I always have to listen to and agree to his demands. If I do not he gets very upset and hurts himself in his rage.
I always try not to get into a argument and try to explain why I do not agree in some unfair situations. However it never works, he does not want to compromise and stops talking to me for certain periods of time and tries to make my life miserable.
His mom also always picks up fights with everyone and stops talking to them, including her own mother. If I do not give in he says he'll take revenge on me when the time comes.
I do everything in the house from entire household work to taking care of kids, running on errands, cooking. I do not have any help from him, even though I am working mom too.
I don't even expect anything in return, but a little respect and appreciation would be very welcome. I also take special interest in trying out different cuisines and he all he has to say is that I am wasting my time.
Sometimes I get so frustrated that I end up giving the special treats to someone else, knowing that at least they will enjoy it. He knows that I am more talented and am better in a lot of things compared to him, but don't know why I deserve to be treated like a old rag.
It is very hard to please him. I feel manipulated when it comes to making family or any decisions. My contributions are tossed over and I feel my position is not secure because in the end if one day if I lose my patience he may tell me to get lost and not consider anything I have done for him and the family.