Boy friends lack of self confidence
Me and my boyfriend say we love each other, and I believe that to be true on both sides. Our problem is since his childhood he has had self esteem issues and low self confidence because of the way he was treated by other girls and by just other people. This causes problems for our relationship because we have both had colorful pasts, one no worse than the others.
Unfortunately, because of his lack of self esteem he finds himself constantly comparing himself to guys from my past and begins thinking hes always going to be lesser than them some how. And on top of that he has OCD and so then he begins to become obsessive with the thoughts.
I have tried talking to him explaining to him how this is not the case. That I am with him and none of those other guys because he is better than them. He honestly just wants the obsessive thoughts to go away and it is something we have been working hard on. We think it all roots from his lack of confidence, but I don't know what advice to give him or how I myself can help the issue ( besides being over praising). Any help would be much appreciated.